Wow... isn't she lovely... Ms. Joke Silva. A.k.A Mrs. Joke Olu-Jacobs, the wife of a veteran Nigerian actor who starred in several British television series and international films...
And whose 80th birthday was celebrated by friends and lovers around the world from Lagos Nigeria on Sunday, July 10th, 2023.
If you are looking for a wife or looking to maintain a blissful marriage long term with your wife, I have extracted 5 simple but massive tips for you to apply to your own life.
The first tip is to marry a woman whose name is Joke.
Okay... That was a joke... no pun intended. My beautiful wife's middle name is also Joke. But the chances of you finding a Joke is slimmed to almost none.
I do have another 5 tips for you.
And I QUOTE...
"‘Wow! This is the standard of the woman I’m going to marry."
That was what Olu Jacobs told his wife of some 37+ years when he first laid eyes on this beautiful young woman who was in her early 20's at the time.
Listen. We don't know them personally... but never mind all that... This is “couple goals”.
At least, we can see a real life example of what marriage was designed to do even in the entertainment industry which is notorious for random divorces.
Did you see my last video on Funke Akindele and JJC Akindele… Gentlemen… we have to step our game up. These women belong to you if you can get your sh*t together.
Don't you get tired of the horrible divorce, paternity fraud, and etc stories?
Anyway, if you are struggling in dating, relationships, marriage, parenting, career etc... Consider sending me a text message with the word "HELP" to +1 (732) 517-7532 and I will see what I can do.
Let's countdown the 5 tips from Mr Olu Jacobs and Ms Joke Silva.
A lot of young men these days, in response to the decline to the pride that comes with the nuclear family, are now subscribing to archaic ideologies as a quick solution.
In fact, it's a major talking point that one of the signs of unruly women is when they choose to keep their maiden name as opposed to changing to their husband's family name as the new last or surname.
While I recognize the pride attached to the culture of women changing names once they get married, there is something to say to a man who is secure in himself enough to say these words and managed to keep his home together for 37+ years.
And I'm quote...
“She is her individual.
When I met her, she was an actress known as Joke Silva, so why should marrying me deny her audience her name.
She is Miss Joke Silva, who is Mrs Joke Jacobs.
It is as simple as that.
People now begin to say all sorts. They have even written that we are separated and all sorts of stuff.
When she is working, she is Joke Silva, but she is Mrs Joke Jacobs at home,”
That was Olu Jacobs speaking to rumors in the past. Tabloids used to be entertainment for women.
But sadly in this modern era, men would join and shame this man who actually is an example of their secret desired results.
They shame him because he chose not to have an unhealthy attachment to the ideology of his wife changing her brand name after getting married as far back as 37+ years ago in the still "traditional non-westernized" Nigeria.
You’ve sworn you know everything about the traditional Africans right?
Sure you should stand for something so you don't fall just for anything. But as a man, you must know how to identify and create valid exceptions in life. If you don't, you will suffer from your own ignorance.
In a few Instagram posts on July 10th, 2023, you can see Ms. Joke Silva fitting her husband, visually appearing to be in his old age but also sick with a condition called Dementia with Lewy bodies.
Dementia with Lewy bodies (DLB) is a type of progressive dementia that leads to a decline in thinking, reasoning and independent function.
Many young man today are stupidly concerned about how much weight a lady gains after having the first baby when that's fundamentally an attraction issue that should have been ironed out earlier.
Others worried about superficial nonsense like if she makes more money or not... fundamentally an insecurity issue on the part of the man.
In reality, these are the least of your issues when you are doing life with a person you love and are in-love with. Inevitably, crises will fall on you and whoever you are spending time with in life.
If you are an immature person, the easiest thing for you to do is to blame it on the closest person or things like finances, infidelity, in-laws.... but the reality is that there are deeper issues…
And Ultimately… you do not know tomorrow… but yet acting like God.
Focus on finding a wife... a good thing... someone you can see yourself with when you are sick and 90 years olds... flat boobs, wrinkle... and all.... provided you feel a physical attraction to them today.
Anxiety about tomorrow and yesterday will destroy and rob you of your chances of achieving true joy.
Clearly... Olu Jacobs is reaping what he sowed over the last 37 years and most likely beyond.
When Aunty Joke first met Uncle Olu at a rehearsal around 1981, she had heard a lot of good things about him... “a man coming from England to play the lead role.”
The anticipation and excitement about a person she had never met... she looked forward to meeting him.
In this time and age, there are many men of all ages sadly roaming around social media creating reputations of polar opposite.
Many ladies are pinged into online and social media spaces to hear how some men have chosen to address women in disrespectful, generalized and rude manners.
That's also a form of reputation right?
Well, Law 5 of the 48 laws of power by Robert Greene says "So Much Depends on Reputation — Guard It with Your Life."
Question of the day: Do you think Mr Olu Jacobs' reputation that worked ahead of him made it easier for him to woo a fine lady like Ms Joke Silva or it didn't matter what type of reputation it was?
Answer me in the comment area below.
When they first met, here was his first statement and I quote... "Wow! This is the standard of the woman I’m going to marry."
Ms Joke Silva thought it was a rubbish pick up line. But she said, he continued to demonstrate being a "wonderful" person during the rehearsals.
She thought he realized... and I quote... "He had made a faux pas and tried to get in my good graces after that. And we became excellent friends."
I would argue that he confidently forgave himself as fast as humanly possible if at all necessary and moved on to demonstrate self-respect, self-validation, high self-esteem which in turn made her feel safe and secure around him.
Does a typical woman feel safe and secure around you after running your mouth online? I am not talking about the women advocating for men’s rights online.
Are you attracting the S.I.G.N language from the typical woman and having a hard time holding yourself accountable?
Shame, Insults, Guilt, Need to be right… Nagging. Or maybe… you are the first to beat the ladies to the S.I.G.N language… “these 304s ain’t sh*t!”
What I observe these days are a bunch of young men who need external validation in order to remain in their masculine frame; an oxy-freaking-moron.
They need the modern woman to be checked and roasted constantly; needy behavior.
The feminine energy is there ready to receive, multiply and reciprocate back to you. It’s like the ocean with a massive chaotic-like trend. If you attempt to swim against it, you will drown yourself.
That's a whole series of processes, it takes time and that whole phenomenon and the respect that comes with it will be earned; no exceptions. Yes! The beautiful feminine energy is conditional.
The conditions and passing the non-intentional and endless shit tests from women overall is what makes you a man.
If you have problems with this reality, you will attempt to "fake-masculine" and demand respect and you will fall flat on your face all bruised up 100% of the time.
Feel free to try and prove me wrong.
In no way, shape or form am I asking you to engage an unruly or disrespectful woman and attempt saving her, you will fail.
But I will continue to hold you accountable for engaging unruly or disrespectful community of women and attempting to save them.
It's a YOU problem. Stop the cap and Fix YOU!