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My name is OLA and I am your host.
I truly believe that the state of our society and the family structure is a function of the emotional and mental health of the men of our society.
But this has evolved to a family. The Prestigious Family...
And that's a family of ladies and gentlemen who want to remain students of what it takes to achieve healthier and profitable relationships.
This platform was originally designed to address issues around manhood and relationships. But our world between men and women are so interwoven that we can't avoid each other.
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My name is OLA and I am your host.
I truly believe that the state of our society and the family structure is a function of the emotional and mental health of the men of our society.
But this has evolved to a family. The Prestigious Family...
And that's a family of ladies and gentlemen who want to remain students of what it takes to achieve healthier and profitable relationships.
This platform was originally designed to address issues around manhood and relationships. But our world between men and women are so interwoven that we can't avoid each other.
We need and want each other evident by the passionate ways we express the talking points in the epidemic of the online gender war.
The gender war stops here on Man of Prestige.
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And peace.
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My name is OLA and I am your host.
I truly believe that the state of our society and the family structure is a function of the emotional and mental health of the men of our society.
But this has evolved to a family. The Prestigious Family...
And that's a family of ladies and gentlemen who want to remain students of what it takes to achieve healthier and profitable relationships.
This platform was originally designed to address issues around manhood and relationships. But our world between men and women are so interwoven that we can't avoid each other.
We need and want each other evident by the passionate ways we express the talking points in the epidemic of the online gender war.
The gender war stops here on Man of Prestige.
Thank you so much.
Hopefully, you've been enlightened and educated. See you on the next one.
And peace.
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Recently I stumbled into Myro Golden again on YouTube while he was being interviewed by Dan Henry. My first encounter with him was on “Club House; the audio app” during the pandemic. He uses a lot of biblical principles to teach marketing and sales strategies.
According to an example he gave on one of his most popular videos on making statable offers for sale, “Dr Myron Golden teaches people how to scale their business by selling predominantly high volume high ticket from the stage and his students have multiple 6 and 7-figure days faster than any other business coach in the industry. I’m sure that would get your attention as well.
Yes he is a PHD holder from a private school. I saw a recent video of a guru police questioning the credibility of the school he got his PHD from.
But I don’t care about that stuff. I’ve listened to him enough and my conclusion is that he knows what he is talking about.
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He said a lot that I agree with and I have taken the liberty to extract 7 marketing and sales tips for you. Also 200+ YouTube subscribers seems to agree with me.
Before we break down these 7 tips…
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The more value you bring into the marketplace, the more money will eventually transfer into your bank account. It's really that simple.
Keep in mind that a major factor here is the market place. So the solution you create is being deemed to be solving a problem per the market's opinion and not just yours.
Think of solutions also as answering someone's question with an answer and replacing a person's pain with relief or pleasure.
We've already mentioned the marketplace. But let's take it a little deeper than that.
The marketplace is made up of people; one person at a time. So the question is who is that person whose problem is solved by the solution that you provide.
You need to connect with the person. And by the way, we are not talking about physically connecting with him or her. The first step is to get to know whoever this person is.
After identifying that special someone who makes up the marketplace you want to serve, contribute a piece of your solution to them; that's value.
And I mean contribute for free. That's precisely the part of your activities that will create that downstream viral growth effect you are looking for in your business.
Focus on serving that one proverbial person and the rest will take care of itself. The others will naturally connect with that value you've taken time to create at a deep level.
Dr.Myron talked about the difference between faith and doubt; basically not much. They are both a form of belief and emotions but polar opposites.
You need to create the feelings, emotions and beliefs that will drive the sales conversion or desired outcome using your marketing message. It's your responsibility.
Sure your product has all these positive features. But per your marketplace, it has both positive and negative perceptions. You want to use your marketing messaging to focus on expanding the positive perceptions of your offer.
Your prospect needs to be able to quantify the benefit that your offer brings to their health, finances or relationships; it needs to be measurable.
They need to be able to compare the new anticipated status against their present status.
Their present status doesn't need to be presently bad. But the promised new status needs to be obviously better and that betterment needs to be measurable.
With that being said, keep in mind that the offer is not necessarily your product. Think of your product from a value standpoint.
I agree 100% with Dr.Myron here. The average mind is not satisfied with their marketing and sales message until they use big words.
This is a terrible mistake. Keep in mind that people will primarily take you up on your offer because the idea of buying from you feels good. The set of features of your product is secondary.
So it's best that you can describe what your offer does in a simple one–statement manner that a 3rd to 5th grader can understand.
If little kids in 3rd grade can’t understand your offer, there is a very good chance that you don’t understand your offer.
Again, you might have created a fantastic product. But so has everybody else.
One of the things that will set you apart from everyone else that is struggling to sell their fantastic product is your ability to understand your product enough to create an understandable offer out of it.
Tip number four is my favorite just because I’ve seen and experienced the magic of being able to create emotions in prospects. Your prospects simply don’t care about the greatness of your product until they can feel the transformation the product offers.
“Marketing and sales” is something that I cover in detail in my book “Digital Marketing Certified”. Chapter 4 and 10 on “the connection” and “the structure” are where you might want to pay particular attention to.
If you want us to help you with your digital marketing and sales campaign, book a free strategy session with my team at www.DigitalMarketingCertified.com. You will also get a free copy of the book right after booking the session.
7 Timeless Tips from Anthony Morrison on Pay Per Click & My Thoughts | Episode 6
I consider Anthony a legend in the internet business and affiliate marketing game. Over the past 12 years, I’ve followed his moves on and off. He is consistent and consistently evolving as well.
He is one of the top affiliates of Russell Brunson’s ClicksFunnel. He has also evolved today to many things like software as a service (SAAS) businesses such WebinarFuel and even real estate.
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In the bizopp community, his most popular platform (more or less a business opportunity offer) is his viral affiliate program called Partner with Anthony.
Anthony also ran Morrison Publishing, a membership program for teaching internet marketing out of Mississippi. But this program doesn’t seem to have been updated since 2020.
At press time, he seems more engaged with his Digital Advantage real estate investing program. His success connection, going as far back as 12 years, seems up to date as well.
Over the years, Anthony has said a lot considering that over 105,000 individuals are still subscribed to him on YouTube. In fact, I have taken the liberty to extract 7 timeless Pay Per Click tips from his top content.
Four or five of the 7 tips were directly related to the Pay Per Click (or PPC) marketing strategy. What is PPC? It’s a marketing and advertising model that allows you to pay content publishers each time an ad is clicked.
Before we break down these 7 tips…
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This tip is three-in-one. In order to run a successful pay per click campaign, you need a well-written ad copy, a target audience and the right platform.
It sounds like the extension of the legendary Dan Kennedy's magnetic marketing formula; the right message, the right market and the right media (MMM).
Does this sound familiar? The value, the people and the connection between value and the people. It's the same thing and I agree 100% with it.
Well, we have to keep reminding ourselves of this part. Your audience responds emotionally to buying your products and services 85% of the time and then justify with logic later.
So whatever you are writing or creating as content is most effective when it triggers emotional response. What that means is that they have to be able to relate at a personal level first and then more.
Even when your offer makes pragmatic sense in terms of its utility, they really don't care until they can relate emotionally. Keep this in mind when creating a pay per click ad copy.
Obviously, we all want more. But when it comes to setting up a pay per click campaign, you want to be careful with that. And here is why.
You will be collecting lots of data from any given campaign that you run. It can quickly turn to paralysis by analysis when you try to monitor too many ads at the same time for the same audience.
Focus is key. There are so many layers of variables. So less is going to be more in many respects because of the value of focus in running and optimizing an effective pay per click campaign.
If you don't know any better, you would think this contradicts the previous tip.
Split testing is a practice whereby we test one feature or element of a campaign against another variation in order to optimize for better performance.
But this actually aligns with the idea that "less = more." The best practice with split testing variations in your ads and pieces of content is to test no more than 3 variations at a time; preferably 2 variations.
This cycle starts with the pay per click traffic itself. But once you set up a campaign and people start visiting your website, how do you convert these visitors to customers?
It's simple. Step 1, send the traffic to a lead capture page, step 2-have them enter their email contact which is stored on an autoresponder list and step 3, select a product to promote.
Then step 4, write well written emails to promote the product and step 5, send the emails to the contacts, and step 6, make money and reinvest a percentage of the money into driving more traffic. Then the cycle continues.
As I warned earlier, this tip is not particularly about pay per click. Anthony is pushing this idea for real estate investing.
By the way, digital marketing strategies are also leveraged as a digital advantage in real estate and other traditional businesses. What does that mean?
More than ever before, we have access to digital platforms where you can set up compelling and valuable messages to collect more data than we've ever seen before.
Analyzing these data for business insights is the digital advantage that you and I can leverage for better results today.
This is a business tip from Anthony. If you are very hard working like me, you need to take some time in hours, days, and weeks to reset sometimes. Why?
Well, you are human. You are the number one asset in your business at this stage; I am guessing. So your personal productivity is key to your long term success.
Don't wait until you break down before the inevitable need to reset from time to time. Majority of such resets are needed at a mental level.
Tip number five is a major key to, not just business, but life in general. Less is almost always 100% more. This is speaking to leverage and leverage is key in business.
Just as we discovered in the Alex Hormozi episode, it’s about doing the right thing and not the most things.
Pay Per Click is something that I cover from a fundamental standpoint in my book “Digital Marketing Certified”. Chapter 9 on “the sources” is where you might want to pay particular attention to.
If you want us to help you with your Pay Per Click campaign, book a free strategy session with my team at www.DigitalMarketingCertified.com. You will also get a free copy of the book right after booking the session.
I stumbled into Patrick Bet-David as a YouTube video content creator some 4-5 years ago.
I found out much later that he actually founded and ran an insurance network marketing company called PHP Agency until mid-2022 when it was sold.
Patrick is a 6’4’’ man who has been married since 2009 to his wife Jennifer and they are blessed with children. He is a very proud family man.
He has about 6 books published with "Your Next five Moves" being the most recent of them.
As far as ethnicity and nationality, Patrick is an American born in Iraq to Assyrian/Armenian parents. He served in the US Army after his high school education. So he never finished college if he went at all.
In fact, he had a t-shirt proudly representing the 1.8 GPA gang in one of his most popular videos.
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We can't trust these net worth sources too much. But according to a few websites like therichest.com, moneyinc.com, etc, PBD as he is fondly called by many industry heads has a net worth ranging between $150 to $200 million.
From the looks of things, he clears an income much more than $1 million per month from a conglomerate of businesses. But these days, I think Patrick is obsessed with Social Media Marketing.
On his Valuetainment media platforms, he discusses everything from entrepreneurship to politics but today, we are interested in his digital marketing moves; especially the social media marketing strategies. I am hacking that for you today.
Although I have noticed that he went completely crazy with Podcasting his content ever since the $100 million Joe Rogan trail blazing Spotify deal.
There are so many fantastic interviews on his platform. In fact, I think he might have conducted the last interview for the great Koby Bryant if my memory serves me right.
He said a lot over the past few years that I’ve followed him. But let’s pick out what I consider his best 7 hacks at this point namely:
84% of consumers report that they’ve purchased a product or service after watching just one video. From the looks of things, it seems that Mr. Bet-David is taking this all the way to the bank because I’ve noticed him expanding his video content media platform to politics, comedy, film-making and more.
Before I break down these 7 hacks with my thoughts…
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Patrick said if you don't have $10 million in a bank account, you shouldn't be flying first class.
This was rule number 8 of his rules of the money game which you can find on his Valuetainment channel.
I couldn't agree more. He went on to compare it to spending that money on marketing and expansion of your business.
Flying first class is a cost and not an investment while these other suggestions will potentially produce more and fund multiple first class tickets over and over.
This was an inspirational piece that he did some few years back. It basically highlights the one attribute that sets the winners apart from the losers.
What is it? They simply show up everyday contrary to most losers' beliefs of luck.
I do believe in luck too. But be guided. The less often you show up, the more likely you will lose.
Although that may not be obvious, think about it. This is a game at the end of the day and skills are involved.
How do you sharpen your skills? If there was one single factor, it's showing up consistently and everyday.
PBD suggests that you make sure that the collective of the people in your circle are smarter than you.
There is a common saying that your income is the average of the closest 4-5 people around you. This ideology is not just about money.
Everything that affects growth in other areas of your life and especially business is affected by the quality of your circle of influence and network.
I have to confess. This is something I need to improve on personally.
I need to get out to more professional and industry events and make some new smarter friends. Feel free to steal the idea.
So Patrick breaks down these three stages of advancement through business from (1) creating to (2) maintaining to (3) advancing.
And then he suddenly focused on the advancing part, where you are enjoying the level of success that you really couldn't explain pragmatically if you were asked.
It makes absolute sense to me because I've experienced this in both relationships and business. It almost feels like some random overnight success at least to people outside looking in.
That's what happens only if you are part of the minority that starts and makes it to that point. It's going to be tough but don't quit. The rewards are that great.
I consider myself lucky for my foundation in marketing and business to have involved the network marketing profession and here is why.
Recruiting and leverage as a concept in general is key to sustainability in any type of business. It's even bigger than that.
But because of that background, I am able to comprehend fully what Patrick Bet-David was talking about here.
As part of your leverage building activity, you have to recruit humans, machines, technology such as the social media among other things to to serve the market with the most value.
This particular tip from PBD reminds us of making sure that we all stay engaged with competitive advantage with respect to a market place.
Code academy is a platform where you can learn how to code for free as part of the initiative to the shift that basic skills have made in the last few decades alone.
If you have children that are not learning how to code right now, they will struggle in the job market regardless of what profession it is. Change and evolution are inevitable especially for you as a creator or entrepreneur.
He is not talking about holding yourself accountable here. As an entrepreneur especially, we know you can hold yourself accountable, but that's not enough.
You need to surround yourself with people who love you and your mission enough to take a look at things objectively and hold you accountable when necessary.
It could be systems that you've set in place. The idea is to not assume that you are invisible. There is blind spots everywhere in business. This could also be your healthy obsession over social media analytics.
My favorite of these hacks are hacks number seven, six and four because they shed more light on the sacrificial nature of these endeavors. To become a top one percenter in society is never an overnight success. But the rewards can feel that way.
About 7 years ago, Patrick published a video on how to stand out on Social Media as an entrepreneur. In that video, he talked about how he writes a minimum of an article per week on Sunday nights at 11 o’clock in 90 minutes.
He then uses twitter to send it out while also checking the news about 20-30 minutes daily. He also posted one post per day on Instagram. At that time, he released two videos per week. The most important thing he said was that it’s only lack of efficiency that makes you claim that there is no time.
But also, maybe you just don’t see the value in social media marketing in general. I can tell you that not involving or optimizing social media in or for your business is the greatest mistake you can make right now.
Social media marketing is something that I cover extensively in my book “Digital Marketing Certified”. Chapter 3 and Chapter 10 is where you might want to pay particular attention to.
If you want us to help you with your social media marketing campaign, book a free strategy session with my team at www.DigitalMarketingCertified.com. You will also get a free copy of the book right after booking the session.
Out of nowhere… at least that’s what it feels like in my head now. Alex just started popping up everywhere.But after listening to one of his long-form videos, I now feel like I might have met this person before.
Alex Hormozi is the founder of Acquisition.com and he has nothing to sell. Yea right? I do think that’s a very slick slogan especially when you walk around in shorts selling that to people like me. I get it. But we are all selling something.
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From the looks of things at this point, it seems like Mr Hormozi is a video marketing professional. Once you watch just one of his videos, he will literally start popping up everywhere, instagram, TikTok… literally everywhere.
At press time, Alex’s YouTube channel just crossed the 600,000 subscriber’s mark. On Instagram, he has 645,000 followers and another 546,000 subscribers on TikTok.
After listening to him talk about monetization and scaling on a few videos, it makes absolute sense to me that he has made no less than $100 million from his video marketing activities alone.
He bought, fixed, scaled and sold gyms. At this point, I think that's just a part of his story but I could be wrong.
A lot of Mr Hormozi’s rhetoric is about scaling a business. He said a lot that I resonate with. But from observing his moves, he is literally using these strategies on his video marketing activity.
And check out tip number 4 as I count them down right now. It will be hard for me to share everything in this episode, but let’s run through a quick fire round:
Let’s count them down one after the other and elaborate based on my understanding and my thoughts..
My name is OLA and I am the founder of myEmpirePRO. myEmpirePRO is all about learning, earning and building empires.
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This is the ultimate entrepreneurial struggle especially in the shining object syndrome age. It’s super easy to chase after the overnight success stories.
Instead, Alex suggests focusing on micro-slow and macro-fast as opposed to micro-fast and macro-slow. Trust me, I can relate. Pay attention to tip number 2; for more context.
Pick one lane. Pick one thing if you have not hit a million dollars yet. If you have any experience building a business or even a simple video marketing campaign, you’ve probably found yourself, jumping from one thing to the other quite often.
Just pick one thing and follow through. It’s easier said than done. But that’s what you have to do.
Just less than 5 years ago, Alex Hormozi was a struggling business owner with less than $2,000 to his name inside one of Russell Brunson’s masterminds. He helped him highlight his strength which is teaching other gym owners his systems.
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In this one particular video, Alex asked what we thought was stopping him from advancing past a particular level; skills or belief?
From my personal experience and struggles, in spite of all the success I’ve seen, it’s definitely “belief”.
Hey. No such thing as overnight success. Even though Alex Hormozi has gone from less than $2,000 in his savings to tens of millions of dollars in less than 7 years.
Most people would hear that only. I was able to pick up that he had businesses before that with 40 employees when he was 25 years old. All of those failures lead to his massive success that we are observing today.
In one of his training videos, he lines up all of Jay Z’s skills with the biggest one being Beyonce. Leverage!
The most productive activities in a success business system are repetitive and boring in nature. And this poses a big problem for creative minds like myself.
Don’t make the mistake of abandoning the boring work. Better yet. Get them done. I need this reminder from time to time.
There are many things that represent leverage in business. Content and media, which also includes video marketing, will literally cost you $0 to replicate.
Listen. It just doesn’t make any sense for any type of business not to be engaged in content marketing now. But many as usual will wait for saturation.
Once you get skills, it will never leave you. That’s why you will keep coming back to success even if you lose everything. But the type of skills required of you will depend on what stage you are on your path to $100 million and beyond.
Speed is about doing the right stuff and not doing the most stuff. I used to say, successful entrepreneurship is about getting things done and not doing them necessarily. Alex Hormozi took it further to say, it’s about getting the right stuff done.
Many of you will engage yourself with minimum wage activities that will add nothing to your bottom line. Pay attention to this.
Shortly before I created this video. Alex released a video reflecting on a video he shot about 6 years ago. He was advising on why sacrifice is absolutely necessary. Link this back to the first tip I shared on micro slow and macro fast.
I love all of them. But most importantly, I love the fact that all these tips can be linked and applied to any endeavor meant to be built and even video marketing.
It’s “hella” obvious that this is what Alex is doing with his massive video and content marketing campaigns. And $200,000,000 in annual revenue is not your mate.
Content and video marketing is something that I cover extensively in my book “Digital Marketing Certified”. Chapter 3 on “the value” is where you might want to pay particular attention to.
If you want us to help you with your video marketing campaign, book a free strategy session with my team at www.DigitalMarketingCertified.com. You will also get a free copy of the book right after booking the session.
I said to myself. “Let me see who else is talking about digital marketing on the streets of Youtube.” Then I stumbled into Adam’s videos.
Needless to say, I am impressed by the videos I’ve seen so far. Well detailed and clean presentation in simple ways to understand.
And I quote…
“Strategy First - which has allowed me, my clients, and students, to consistently build, grow, and scale powerful, profitable, and freedom providing businesses – regardless of what channel, network, or platform we use.”
From my gatherings, Adam is a marketing strategist who lives on the west coast of Canada. I happen to be in Calgary, Alberta Canada on a business trip at press time.
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Adam is also one of the instructors at digitalmarketer.com. He is a YouTuber and on his YouTube channel, he runs a weekly show called The Saturday Morning Live - Business and Marketing Q&A.
Adam has a very similar marketing story and journey to mine. I also was a victim of the shiny object syndrome culture. It cost me years and millions of dollars. Nonetheless, I don’t regret any part of the journey. Okay. I am starting to sound like him.
From what I’ve seen, this guy is a master at video marketing. So I will be paying attention to his moves; not necessarily what he says.
I found 7 quotes from Adam ErHart that I am going to edify and add some context to from my personal insights namely:
Let’s break them down one after the other.
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I am also the author of 4 books namely Digital Marketing Certified, Smart Real Estate Wholesaling, Get My Marriage Back co-authored with my wife Lola and Real Estate Money Secrets.
Depending on what mood you are in. Sometimes, it seems that you’ve got all the time on any given day. But I couldn't agree with Adam more on this one.
If you just track your time for 3 straight days in a 30-minute interval, you might find your discovery, in his own words, “enlightening but disturbing.”
For me, I have discovered that I simply have to keep track of what I spend my time on because 80% of it is unproductive; though seemingly productive at initiation.
The distractions are just that bad. A great reminder from Mr Erhart
I am one of the fortunate ones who learned this a long time ago due to my early exposure to marketing. Most people do not fall out of the skies understanding or having the ability to comprehend this.
Instead, their knee jerk and still emotionally-driven response is often “common sense” based. Emotions are not just the money maker. Emotions which include anger, fear and greed drives everything that any of us cares about.
So when it comes to video marketing, it’s in your best interest to pay attention to your emotional intelligence. I strongly believe it’s one of the many reasons why video marketing is such an effective marketing channel.
Your audience is able to connect with you visibly; obviously a heightened level of emotional connection. It preframes them to want to do business with you.
That’s very true. I often tell people that trust is a by-product of consistency. But yes, I feel comfortable to add frequency to that.
But that frequency also needs to be sustainable. Here is what I mean. If you are a busy person, it might not be sustainable to try and release 3 videos to 7 channels per day.
Nonetheless, I believe that for every one week you are not releasing videos, you will have to compensate for… in filmmaking skills and talent.
For video marketing particularly, at least once per week video release in frequency, will drive your brand trust equity wild.
I, like many others, have also made this mistake. I’ve spent time with people who are simply not fit, at least not yet, for my products.
A person who doesn’t have a source of income is not a fit for learning how to market or build an online empire. But I guess sometimes, I just empathize wanting to help everyone.
The reality is that no one can afford to help anyone who is not willing or able to sow some kind of seed.
And there are many other reasons why some people are just not a fit for your offers and especially your most valuable asset; your time.
As much as we all know that we are in a microwave and quick-fix era, some things are timeless. One of them is emotional connection and the fact that people make business decisions with their emotions 85% of the time and justify it with logic later.
I believe video is the best way to connect with an audience emotionally. According to Cisco, it was estimated that by 2022, 82% of all consumer internet traffic will be made up of videos. This number is 15x higher than what it was in 2017.
On Adam Erhart’s first video on his YouTube published 6 years ago, he talked about consistently “being you” at your touch points but also balancing that out with consistently being different.
And he also mentioned “authenticity discrepancy” which is not being true to yourself particularly detectable by your prospects.
Consistent and well planned out video marketing will exponentially grow your business and that’s evident by the dramatic growth that Adam’s Youtube channel demonstrates sitting nicely above 200,000 subscribers at press time.
Last but not least, I personally will be exploring this strategy; in-app retargeting. The internet has been evolving on a consistent basis.
In the past few years, there was lots of drama around the iOS 14 update which makes it difficult to track consumer behavior across digital assets due to privacy policies.
But in that same time period, it became more and more profitable to leverage in-app applications and native creative on the actual ad platforms.
Retargeting allows us to consistently showcase our brands and products to prospects that are already exposed to our brand inside the social media app where the engagement was initiated.
I wanted to keep sending my prospect to my website myempirepro.com which is external to the social media apps because I am addicted to traditional methods of list building and following up with autoresponders.
The truth is that it has made me and my student lots of money over the past 12 years.
But Adam has now reminded me that I have to apply consistent differentiation. I have to adapt and evolve consistently with digital marketing. It makes complete sense.
Building a profitable emotional connection between your brand and your ideal customer with video marketing is something that I cover extensively in my book “Digital Marketing Certified”. Chapter 4 on “the connection” is where you might want to pay particular attention to.
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He is a guy who apparently went from $35,000 in debt at the age of 19 to becoming a best selling author.
He was a sidekick on Dame Ramsey’s show which is all about personal finances. So I would guess that the Dave Ramsey brand has helped kick his influencer and content marketing career off well.
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I promise. I won’t use that as an excuse to not keep on building this platform beyond 3,500 subscribers. I appreciate every single one of you. Actually, I am about to share with you some specific reasons why I am inspired.
He is a content creator; a YouTuber. He hosts a show called “The Table with AO” where he interviews many other successful people, with an audience of over 450,000 subscribers.
I stumbled into him on the episode where he was interviewing Tony Gaskins on relationships which is another favorite topic that I cover on my platforms.
Personally, I will be watching some more of his videos. He’s interviewed people from stock traders to course creators, real estate investors to multiple 6-figure IT and Tech guys.
I can only imagine that he is inspiring so many young people in taking control of their financial profile as well as showcasing ways to build sustainable income.
I am not mad at that at all.
Well, this platform is supposed to be about marketing. But I promise, we will get there soon.
The first video I stumbled into as I was trying to know a little more about Anthony is a video where he was being interviewed by a lady; Cherie Johnson.
She explains how she first ran into Anthony after he shared a story about a lady he really liked but she insisted on a date to a particularly expensive restaurant.
Anthony would tell his potential date that his budget for that month won’t carry it. He promised her the date for the following month.
Then another gentleman in that conversation asked Anthony. “Let’s just say you’ve got a relationship, you are with your woman, and she wants to go out and you ain’t got it. What would you do?”.
Anthony answers. “That’s my woman. A man has gotta keep it 100 with his woman.” Anthony, what do you mean by 100… elaborate please.
But in that same video, Anthony talks about how he saves, invests and gives away about 40% of his income. He is apparently the money and budget guy.
Just like you, I was now on the edge of my seat and I want to share some of the insight I got from Anthony. In Particular, I will share my thoughts about these 7 quotes.
My name is OLA and I am the founder of myEmpirePRO. myEmpirePRO is all about learning, earning and building empires.
I am also the author of 4 books namely Digital Marketing Certified, Smart Real Estate Wholesaling, Get My Marriage Back co-authored with my wife Lola and Real Estate Money Secrets.
I do not disagree with any of these tips as usual. I am just sharing my thoughts and may be adding a little context here and there. As you know, it’s easy to turn talking points into absolutes and religion in ways that it can hurt us.
So let’s countdown down Anthony’s tips.
He is absolutely right about this point. In fact, one of the quotes you can attribute to me is this right here. If all you’ve got is a good credit score, it’s not sustainable all in itself.
It’s only a matter of time before you destroy the credit score if you do not have real income with consistent cash flow to keep fueling it. Anthony said, “it’s just a sign that you know how to pay debt back.” I agree.
I would add that paying debt back is different from paying it down.
Sure cash is king. But if cash is king, then cash-flow has got to be the emperor. At press time, I am still listening to Anthony. So I am sure he is going to talk more about income and cash-flow.
A lot of his beliefs around saving, investing and giving 40% will literally be impossible or at least unsustainable without consistent cash-flow.
From what I have observed so far, Anthony’s digital marketing strategy is content marketing. It seems to be the source of his cash flow; YouTube, podcast etc. He is a master at this game and I will be paying attention to a lot of his moves.
I see where he is coming from. But let's add a little context. Wouldn’t that depend on how you utilize debt? As I share in my addition to Tip number 7, debt, just like an 800 credit score, is a leverage.
As an entrepreneur and high achiever, you already know that leverage is key to success. So abusing debt is not sexy. Debt, just in itself, is not sexy. But how you leverage debt can absolutely become the sexiest thing you can ever do.
It’s no surprise that Anthony is prioritizing paying off his house mortgage in the same sentence as building net worth. That sounds like a Dave Ramsey talking point. There is more to it.
I love that Anthony continues to share this story of how he was homeless at the age of 19 and how he was kicked out to go figure things out ending up with a $35,000 debt. It’s inspiring.
But I want you to be clear that at press time, Anthony is about 38 years old. That’s another 19 years to figure things out and learn all this wealth of knowledge that he is sharing with us.
I am asking you to recognize that patience and respect for process in going after your own dream are major keys to his success.
During the process, 19 years can feel like a long time. When you start telling your own story, it will be all worth it.
While you have to be careful with this present culture of faking it to make it on social media, it’s important that I point out a little nuance there.
Anthony told an Ocean California story where he caught himself flexing beyond his means with his friends after college even though he was broke like a Church mouse.
I think presentation matters. There is a fine line between faking it and ensuring a compelling presentation in a marketplace.
Outrightly “faking it” with no value based purpose is not sustainable but you can present with value as part of your personal branding efforts and strike a sustainable balance as you are marketing and building your brand.
That’s why content marketing is the most profitable marketing activity in this era. But let’s not be stupid. Presentation still matters.
Anthony presented a stat of the fact that people who live paycheck to paycheck are people who make good money. That makes complete sense to me.
It always comes down to your ability to manage the resources at your disposal. You can also think of it as your ability to play the cards you have been dealt.
If you don’t have these skills, all the money you are making will continue to find its way out of your life.
Anthony talks about not being afraid as a man to tell a lady that a certain type or caliber of date is not in your budget.
I’ll tell you this. Anthony can definitely teach me so much more about branding, marketing, personal financing and so much more. This brother has it.
But with all due respect, it is quite obvious now why he is not married (contrary to his expressed desire) at the age of 35 plus. We are about the same age and I am happily married to my wife of 15 years.
Anthony, my brother. A woman needs to have a little more to wonder about you. All that transparency stuff, especially during the dating phase, has less romantic values than even the least sense of mystery.
Within this present social construct, the right woman will simply follow your lead as she looks forward to more and she wants to spend time with you any way you want; not demanding where and how she wants.
And by the way those girls still exist.
You should never feel the need to “mansplain” your budget to a woman who is not your wife already. If that’s necessary, it would be obvious already. There is no paycheck next Friday. This is simply the reality in the romantic context.
I can’t wait to explore more of his reports on 500 scholarships. Avoiding college debt for my kids definitely has me hooked now.
Understanding context, audience, value and content marketing as a business strategy is something that I cover extensively in my book “Digital Marketing Certified”. Chapter 2 and 3 is where you might want to pay particular attention to.
And by the way, you can download the book for free at www.DigitalMarketingCertified.com
How did I miss this guy since 2009 of actively participating in the world of business and marketing?
Ramon Ray is a motivational speaker whose laugh is extremely contiguous. He is also a piano player like myself. And he is a black man.
Isn’t it amazing how much time we spend in our own little echo chamber? Ramon Ray showed up on my radar as the first… only after my research in looking for the best marketers and entrepreneurs to profile for these series “and my thoughts.”.
Well, I am excited to share what I found with you.
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He is the founder of smarthustle.com and according to his bio, he has sold a few businesses and he seems to be known for one of my favorite topics when it comes to building a business; personal branding.
Ramon was once the regional development developer at infusionsoft now known as Keap around 9 years ago. Keap is one of the email and funnel automation software in the digital marketing industry. I am not sure what his present corporate status is.
So I was watching an interview he did with TopRank Marketing TV where he was answering a question about the post pandemic challenges of business owners.
“Why did you have to wear a red hat in this commercial?” Making references to how careful B2B marketers had to be in order to navigate a very difficult time.
He talked about how sometimes you just have to take a stand. But there is a big “butt”.
My name is OLA and I am the founder of myEmpirePRO. myEmpirePRO is all about learning, earning and building empires.
I am also the author of 4 books namely Digital Marketing Certified, Smart Real Estate Wholesaling, Get My Marriage Back co-authored with my wife Lola and Real Estate Money Secrets.
He shared 4 tips on a very old video that had been posted on Keap’s channel from all those years back then.
I want to add some context to these 4 massive pieces of advice.
If people don’t find your headlines compelling enough, they won’t even look any further. So everything beyond that becomes pointless.
The idea is to hold your audience’s attention in the throat and emotionally remove peace of mind from as many of them as possible until they click to open the content.
The headline needs to hit the nerve in the right spot from an educational, entertaining or enlightening standpoint. Your audience won’t experience your content if you fail at this point.
But the next tip is even more important.
Once you manage to get a person to click into your content, you must deliver the most value within your power. This is what they are going to remember and what will make them decide to come back for more or not.
The video of Ramone Ray that I saw is pretty old. But what he was alluding to is even more important today with the emergence of artificial intelligence, machine learning, search and social media algorithms.
User engagement is measured at every stop, event, and human interaction with your online content. The longer and the more people engage with your content, the more the algorithm recommends and suggests to even more people.
Great content answers questions. Great content solves problems. And great content creates real life transformation because transformation starts with information.
In this time and age, you, as a business owner, can easily be forgotten. The competition is UNREAL. But that’s just the downside of not publishing frequently.
The upside of it is that you are able to absolutely dominate your marketplace while your competitors get buried away in their laziness. At the minimum of once a week, you have to show up to your audience with a new set of values.
Value is something that I am very passionate about. The more value (as defined by the market) that you put out into the marketplace, the more money you get to make. Obviously, the more you can afford to keep your business running.
There are some evergreen content that you only have to create one time and they will continue to attract more prospects to your business. And there are other pieces of content that are built around trendy topics.
If you want to be known as an authority in your business and industry, publishing great content frequently is the fastest and surest way to do it.
Attention span is at an all time low. But also people already have an idea of what they want and you have to do a really good job matching the values in your content with the problem they are trying to solve.
This is not a one time event. In fact, it’s a series of events (relevant content) that lines up to a strong personal brand overtime.
Relevancy also has a lot to do with staying relevant with respect to trendy updates in your particular industry. So two things; it’s relevant to the deepest pain of your audience and also to trendy topics of interest.
Well for one, he seems to be pretty excited about his message. I’m willing to bet that is a very contagious attribute. That’s important because we are talking about marketing which is all about attention first.
But I also like his take on a strong headline. Again, it’s all about getting attention first and foremost since nothing happens outside of it.
Personal branding and content marketing as a business strategy is something that I cover extensively in my book “Digital Marketing Certified”. Chapter 3 is where you might want to pay particular attention to.
And by the way, you can download the book for free at www.DigitalMarketingCertified.com
CHAPTER 10, The Structure - Early 2005, Sheraton Hotel, Woodbridge, New Jersey… after seeing an ad inside the newspaper Star Ledger, I showed up to an event where a gentleman was presenting. I purchased his $300 course and I consider it the best foundation I could have ever had when it comes to running a successful business and here is why.
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The course was basically a slapped-together black and white copy made from some sort of 1967 xerox machine. But the content is majorly responsible for the success I’ve had to date because it started with direct response marketing particularly targeted at a specific pre-defined audience.
But I have to tell you. I think I’ve come to really appreciate that training even more in recent times. However because of my lack of experience, I spent years testing out different ideologies that don't put marketing first over the years. After taking account and counting the blessings and the failures, I have concluded that I was in fact lucky to have taken that training earlier on in my career.
In fact, it doesn’t even matter that I had derailed quite a few times from this concept of purpose and people-driven marketing. It’s just that powerful to drive massive success at any moment that I’ve decided to come back to the foundation. The foundation is just as important as the “structure” if not more important.
A few times over the years, I’ve failed at setting up the “structure” sustainably because of many reasons. One of the main reasons is the fact that stable structures are boring. But at the end of the day, they work. Isn’t that all that matters?
But I am still human. And by that, I am alluding to the fact that I still get influenced by the “shiny object syndrome”. You can also call it “grass is greener on the other side” syndrome.
It’s an on-going battle. But I have gotten better and better with this in recent times. It’s about making the foundation just as important as the “structure”.
In fact, everything we have discussed thus far in this book is the foundation. And I hope that you took it seriously because it’s a foolish man who built his house on the sand.
Over the course of this book, we’ve discussed the goal, the person, the value, the connection, the system, the list, the data, the information and the sources. In essence, we have broken down all the parts of digital marketing to make it as simple as possible for anyone with a marketable offer to understand.
Back when I started engaging in digital marketing full time and more, I had to know everything. Actually, I chose to know everything probably because I really do enjoy the art and science of influencing and persuading people. More importantly, it was useful because I was building a business just as I am still doing today.
There is more structure with the digital marketing industry today. In fact, I just counted more than 20 jobs where you can earn 6 figures or more. These are skill sets that are primarily responsible for scaling any business.
Today, you don’t have to know everything. Sure you should have an overview understanding of each of the areas. But if all you want is a job, you can simply pick one of the previous chapters and don’t stop your research until you get to the level of the equivalent of a doctorate degree.
On the flipside, it is important to read this book 10-15 times in order to make the most out of it. For every additional time you read this relatively small book, you will learn something new. But you will have to excuse the fact that I am not your typical scholastic writer.
In the last chapter, the source, we covered the different web traffic channels. But we didn’t get too much into the actual platforms and their categories such as:
And many others…
However we get a little deeper with each one of these traffic sources and media forms inside our flagship 15 weeks coaching program “Digital Marketing Intensive” (DMi15). Here at www.myEmpirePRO.com , we primarily focus on content marketing through search engine optimization, and paid media via Google and Meta (Facebook) ad platforms.
There are many digital marketing and PPC ad platforms to choose from namely; Google Ads, YouTube Ads (also part of Google Ads) Meta Ads (which used to be Facebook Ads), Instagram Ads (accessible through Meta Ads), Microsoft Ads (which was once called Bing Ads), LinkedIn Ads, Twitter Ads, Pinterest Ads, TikTok for Business, Snapchat for Business etc. Each and everyone of those ad platforms tend to follow the same campaign breakdown “structure.”
The idea of having to figure out all the different pay-per-click (PPC) ad platforms out there probably feels overwhelming right? I understand. All you have to do is pick two or three marketing strategies to execute on two or three ad platforms.
But I also wouldn’t do that until I have set up a successful campaign on one platform first. And what do I mean by success? It depends on your business objective for that campaign.
One of the problems that have cost me millions is the unproductive idea of multitasking. In a real business world, focus matters more than ideas. I find it cute when people talk about multitasking in this great light of new discovery.
It’s true that many things are happening at the same time in any given business. That’s why I will have to put context as priority over focus as well.
It all depends on what you mean. Each process among many in a system with respect to focus on a primary business objective has to be clearly defined if you don’t want to waste resources. So it’s best to set up a campaign successfully on one ad platform first and start collecting data before attempting to scale out to other platforms with the same “campaign breakdown structure”.
If your business has less than 10 employees, I would cap out the number of ad platforms at three. The rest of the focus should go into optimization of your campaigns on the two or three ads platforms you’ve chosen and your business operations.
Understanding a campaign breakdown structure is important because it’s the same skeleton that you will implement on any platforms you chose to set up campaigns on. This “structure” will be useful from both a mental and a campaign execution standpoint. Once you understand it, you can execute a digital marketing campaign set up on any ad platform successfully.
Level 1 - How: The first level is simply defining the platform you choose to run it on. This is the level where you decide which of the many ad platforms you want to run and test your PPC campaigns on. The rest of the levels are about the specifications inside the campaign itself.
Level 2 - Why: On this level, you get to choose the business objective of your campaign. What is the purpose for this campaign? The ultimate purpose of a digital marketing campaign is to make money right? But you need to be a little more specific.
Is it to primarily generate the most video views, reach, visits to external pages, capture leads, or sales? When you are specific, it makes your desired outcome and results easier to track, measure, monitor and control.
You may also be defining your budget for this campaign on this level.
Level 3 - Who: This is where you get to define your ideal prospect and/or customer and their attributes. It’s very hard to be specific with this level but you have to put in some effort for your digital marketing campaign.
At this level, you will get to define:
And more…
Level 4 - What: At this level is where you define the actual message that describes your offer to the audience you specified on level 3.
On the actual ad platform, you will get to upload the images, the video and the ad copy as we cover in more details in Chapter 3 “the value.”
This is the actual creative that the audience, again as defined on level 3, gets to see on the feed and the placements. So it needs to be intriguing enough to catch the attention of the audience you defined. Hence the time I took on breaking down “the value” in chapter 3.
On Meta Ads (a.k.a Facebook Ads), level 1,2 and 3 are Campaign, Ad sets and Ads respectively. On Google Ads, level 1,2 and 3 are Campaign, Ad group and Ads respectively. I promise. On the other platforms that may be unconventional, it's similar.
At the end of this all, it’s all in the mindset. Approach setting up a digital marketing campaign with this 4 level-structure and your chances of better outcome is sure.
Another way you can protect your business from losing money is to buy email marketing placement from other marketers who have built a healthy email list. Check out www.myEmpirePRO.com/traffic especially if you are in the biz-opp or financial niche.
You can simply order clicks and visits over to your websites to pique initial interest. After that, you can then set up a retargeting or remarketing campaign on major platforms like Google Ads or Meta Ads to re-attract your audience from Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Google and their various media partners.
This is an unconventional way of driving consistent traffic and building your list. But you can still apply “the structure” mindset to stay organized. Anyway, in the next and final chapter, we will enter the execution zone. It’s time to put this wealth of knowledge to work.
CHAPTER 9 The Source - Let’s go back to 2002. A family friend had invited me and my brother to his apartment in Somerset, New Jersey. He did mention that there would be a presentation of some sort but I wasn’t paying too much mind to it.
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Soon enough, we found out it was a life insurance MLM (multi-level marketing) business opportunity presentation. But it was a completely new concept to me. To my surprise, my brother had already been exposed to it.
For some reason, we ended up not signing up but I don’t remember why. I’m sure it had something to do with being broke college kids at the time. It must have been about $200 to sign up but we didn’t.
I want to say… something around a few months later, I was in the NJIT (my alma mater) library studying when I ran into a school mate. As a common talking point, I might have uttered something to the effect of “looking to make some serious money.” “Wanna make money?” He asks. I answered “yep”. “I can show you how to make money fast.” He says. Before I knew it, I found myself at another business presentation at Newark Penn Station.
Less than a week later, I went for a full blown training on how the business worked where I found out that the “source” of all this money was people; particularly, my family and friends. After much thought, I declined to fully join the business. Of course, my school mate was disappointed because that was sales commissions being flushed down the drain.
He took the ‘L’ like a real ‘G’. I ended up joining my first MLM in 2009; about 7 years later. The timing was right; I guess. But I was presented again with the idea of my family and friends being the only “source” of life for my business.
I fully understood that money comes from only one source; and that’s people. I learned a long time ago that the revenue you are going to generate in business is already in the hands of someone. So there was no confusion there.
But having to beg my family and friends like my friend and schoolmate from 2002 did with me continued to seem like a bad idea. After all, that traffic, leads and business generation strategy didn’t work on me. Why would it work on my family and friends? But I managed to recruit my brother into partnership with me.
Great minds think alike. I was still willing to set up a business presentation at my apartment and about 22 people showed up. As a businessman with about 3 years of success at the time, selling people to come over and grab free snacks wasn’t hard for me.
Out of my 22 guests, only one person signed up. Less than 24 hours later, she called me and requested a refund. I am sure that family and friends as a “source” of business might have worked for many others before and after me. But you can’t judge me for concluding that it would probably never work for me.
So after a little bit of research, I stumbled into the magnetic marketing concept. It was presented to me as attraction marketing and another guru, Mike Dillard, also presented it as magnetic sponsoring. Well, it made too much sense. My brother also confirmed that he had stumbled into this idea while doing his own research.
We signed up for courses, training and seminars to continue to master this skill-set. In one transaction, I spent more than $600 and then it dawned on me. “I had just given money to a stranger over the internet.” The internet is the new source. This was an exciting discovery.
If we are going to be honest, this is about making money because you and I know that we can’t afford to run a business without enough revenue to justify it. So when we say “source”, we mean nothing can literally happen in digital marketing without talking about online traffic.
Exactly, how do we plan to attract visits to our websites, webpages, videos, landing pages and business. It’s not enough to set up a website in the middle of nowhere on the internet. In fact, we can’t claim that we are talking about digital marketing until we break down online traffic generation.
As I stated earlier on in the book, more than 90% of webpages on the internet get no organic traffic. More gets no traffic at all outside the bots crawling it occasionally to determine if anything is happening over there.
For the most part, most web pages are a ghost land. And there is no real excuse for this because we know that Google is sending free traffic accounting for at least 50% of traffic on the internet as of 2022. Only 15% of online traffic is paid for. So why is your website not actively working as a “source” of new people, leads, deals, customers, clients and partners for your business?
You are already aware that an average human being goes to one place “and one place only” to research, find solutions and answers to problems; the almighty Google. So why isn’t that sounding like the source of all the goodies you need to generate from this digital marketing thing?
Forget about researching and all that boring stuff for a second. Where do you go when you are bored and just want to relax and “chill”? Be honest! Isn’t it Instagram? Oh! Sorry, I meant to say TikTok.
The good news is that you are in control of how many people you want visiting your websites. All you need is a strong enough desire and you can get it all set up in no time. I know that most people still assume that generating traffic is tech-intensive activities.
If you can order to print a pack of 500 business cards to promote your business, you can definitely go through a 3 steps process to set up a simple ad online to generate clicks over to your website. So it’s just a matter of desire.
In this time and age, I want to let you know that online traffic generation is a basic skill. Your business simply won’t make it if you are not operating at that level. It’s the equivalent of swimming against the ocean tide. I would just hope that you are an exception and in fact, know what you are doing.
There are a few exceptions. For example, there are businesses that get a steady supply of new clients from their alliances with government agencies and insurance companies. That’s fantastic as long as they understand that scalability will be limited.
But my guess is that you are reading this book because you want a better control of sourcing your business with new blood steadily. I don’t blame you. The internet is where everyone is hanging out either for leisure or to research answers and solutions.
There is no better time to jump on this as an opportunity. Just like many other opportunities that have come and gone, things will evolve with generating online traffic as well.
But you will learn in a bit that you never need to panic about that. If you master the fundamentals, it’s a transferable skill for the rest of your life as a marketer and/or an entrepreneur.
Here are a few reasons why you need to be in almost full control of how much online traffic comes to your business on a regular basis. First of all, no condition is permanent. And that same concept is true for traffic “sourcing” and generating in of itself. That means even when you fully buy into what I am saying right now, certain sources of traffic won’t continue to work forever.
So just as much as you should never count on just government contracts and leads to run your business, you should also never count on one source of traffic. Therefore it’s very much the same reason why you should be in control of how you attract new people and how much new traffic of people you attract steadily.
When you understand this concept, it will suddenly become okay and more affordable for you to make the inevitable mistakes that most people make in their business. Honestly, that’s a perpetual contradiction. You simply can’t afford to make the mistake of using the hope strategy when it comes to generating fresh business and customers.
So I guess what I meant to say is that you can afford to make mistakes related to conversion rates inside your funnel when you are generating consistent and quality traffic; remember the connection and the system. But those things become pretty much useless when you don’t prioritize consistent flow of traffic into it.
Have you ever tried to multiply anything by zero? The product is always zero right? There is no perfect sales funnel, connection and systems falling out of the skies. Never mind what we discussed in chapters 4 and 5.
If you are not generating and attracting consistent traffic through the funnel, you are not generating any data as discussed in chapter 7, you can’t test and you can’t optimize for maximized profits.
There are four different categories of online traffic sources that we have to further breakdown in a few minutes namely organic, direct, referral and social traffic.
Organic Search Traffic - This is the source of traffic of people searching for particular solutions. When they searched, a search engine result page (SERP) had one of your web pages listed and they clicked on it and were redirected to your website. A user of your website was generated for your website from organic search traffic.
Direct Traffic - This is traffic sourced from a user who types your website address directly into a web browser that loaded your web page from scratch. This user knew the exact web address on the world wide web (www). Most of the traffic generated online is not generated from direct traffic sources.
Most people you give your website address to one time will forget or lose where it is written before they get to a web browser; even though there is a web browser on their smartphone. For the most part, people will be clicking over from some other web page and redirected to your website.
Referral Traffic - This is traffic sourced from other self-hosted websites that manually links to your website. For example, if someone types www.myempirepro.com into a web browser on a device and it loads our webpage, that is considered direct traffic. And to be clear, if you are reading this book on a Kindle or PDF file and you click that link directly, that would not be considered direct traffic. That is considered a referral traffic since it’s a click redirecting from another web based content.
Social Traffic - As you probably already know, social media is one of mankind's greatest inventions. It consumes and generates so much attention because in so many ways, it represents entertainment for 4 billion plus people.
So as business owners and digital marketers, we are sharing articles, videos, photos and more to social media. When users click any of these creatives on social media generating a redirect to your website, it is considered social traffic. And yes, you probably should be taking advantage of this as a major source of traffic for your website and business.
I am just sharing these categories with you to make it easier to comprehend your experience properly when you do start to execute. So this is not a guarantee that other platforms will categorize traffic sources exactly like this. But it will be somewhat close and you will be able to generate traffic to your website on-demand after a few minutes of assessment on how any platforms’ analytics is set up.
Our website www.myEmpirePRO.com at press time generated 43.76% from organic search traffic, 26.52% from direct traffic (we have a specific domain name hybrid strategy for that), 2.29% from referral traffic, 1.03% from social traffic (which we can definitely improve on) and 25.14% from “others” all in the last 28 days alone. A total of 1,012 new users.
“Others” traffic sources are simply traffic sources that the robots were not able to categorize properly. Always remember that digital marketing will never be perfect. Nonetheless, it’s the closest you will get to perfect marketing.
After the launch of this book, we will be scaling it all up even bigger because what I teach is clearly working. These are real humans with real life interests and opportunities to serve stopping by at our websites and we are going to be scaling.
But I want to share www.LOLAandOLA.com traffic sources with you as well. From 1,059 new users in the last 28 days, 77.93% came from organic search, 17.13% came from direct traffic, 0.84% came from social, 0.74% came from referral traffic.
This is what I want you to do. I want you to step up your traffic generation game. What do you sell right now? How do you make money today? Yes. You do have something that you sell even if it’s just your time by way of a resume.
And the more eyeballs your resume gets, the higher the chances that you will get a new job offer. It gives you more options to exercise which means you get to set your own prices in the marketplace. Isn’t that empowering?
It’s easy to look at everything I’ve been sharing with you as digital marketing. But it might have been harder for you to relate it to what you sell today. It doesn’t have to be. Just simply use “eyeballs” on your resume, products and service interchangeably with “traffic” or the “source.” Then it should start to make sense.
Starting today, start relating with social media and the search engines like a producer and not another consumer. As I told you earlier, there are more than 4 billion social media users in the year 2022. There is more than enough supply of consumers obviously because the whole human race is not even up to 8 billion people.
More than half of us are just consuming social media in general. What if you learn and master step-by-step how to produce social media? Are you fully and cognitively aware of the magnitude of opportunity that is when you find the value you can bring into today’s social media marketplace?
There is something that you do effortlessly but that thing is also extremely valuable to someone either hanging out on social media right now or actively searching for that same exact solution online. That is probably the value that your employer recognizes but they are paying you only 1% of what it’s worth. And I don’t blame your employer.
It’s time to get your talent, products and services in front of the people that are most likely going to value them appropriately. That’s why in the next chapter we will be breaking down “the structure”.
We are getting closer and closer to executing these multi-million dollar proven concepts for you and your business; even if you don’t already own a business.
Only a handful of people will do it. But that’s the point. The scarcity of “YOU Inc” is precisely “the source” of your fortune. If you don’t stop, I won’t stop, not only until I finish writing this book, but also until you become a success story from this book.
In the next chapter, I am going to share with you some more sources of the right people. And I will share the fundamentals that work on any platform for setting up and scaling out a 7 figure digital marketing campaign.
CHAPTER 8 The Information - About two years into my digital marketing journey, I discovered high ticket offers as a strategy. I will explain what it means to you in a second. But first, understand it’s probably going to be the defining demarcation between suffering and thriving for your bottomline.
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I had managed to become a top digital sales producer on a few platforms but it also felt like I was working too hard to make $30 commissions. To be honest, I was a little spoiled. I was waking up quite often to $219 commission notifications; sometimes more and sometimes less.
Till today, I still get random sales commission notifications from work I did years ago. But I wanted more. I came from the real estate world where I cashed up to $82,000 in one deal. I knew I had to bring 10X that type of value in order to make that type of money on one single transaction.
So I decided to create an offer with a $4,997 price point for the community I had built and sold a $47 offer to.
There are about ‘107’ $47 in one $4,997. Even though I had packaged an offer with 1,000X value, I still had a little fear whispering in my left ear.
In fact, one of the first feedback I got while delivering the sales presentation was extremely discouraging. It was a random guy in the chat who called me a joke. “Who is the sucker that will pay you $4,997 for this crap?” It was scary.
However, that same presentation created 5 sales. Let’s do some quick math. 5 sales of a $4,997 offer is equal to $24,985 from one sales presentation.
And the shocking part about that was this. These new customers told me in their application interview that they had seen the $47 offer but it was too cheap for them to even take it seriously.
Inside the last chapter, we explored data in so many ways as related to running your business in a digital age. You learned that every activity and process is an opportunity to collect data right?
How far did it go with respect to an objective? But how far should it go? We covered all these different metrics and data to collect and why we collect them. From a visit to a lead and eventually to sales.
We also touched on “views” as a metric when it comes to videos. Videos are powerful ways of connecting with web users. So it is important to collect data as these users watch videos in order to optimize the performance of these videos.
To an extent, digital marketing professionals and business owners do need to be obsessed with collecting data for optimization. But you also learned that modesty is necessary because what’s the point of collecting a bunch of data that will never be analyzed, much less used to optimize campaign performance.
Anytime a user visits one of your web properties, value is being created, transferred and distributed. In fact, money is being spent even before people actually initiate transactions as they consume content that ultimately influences transaction initiations.
So since each little mini-steps informs and influences subsequent steps in the user behavior, you learned that we need to be collecting data to measure in order to optimize for the ultimate goal.
All clicks matter when it comes to digital marketing. But all views, pageviews, actions and user behaviors matter even more. So we must collect these numbers (data) because you never know which one is going to turn to a $19,000 sale… or a $42 sale and everything in between.
In addition to collecting these data, we need to analyze and convert them to meaningful “information”. You would think that I have the confidence to try new things after that 100x revenue story I just shared with you right? Nothing could be further from the truth. I’ve also had enough experiences of losing everything because I tried new things.
The negative traumatic memories are a more impactful stronghold on the human mind. I’ve had to question my own documented abilities and success stories (millions of dollars in production) many times because of fewer bad results. So it’s not as simple as that success story might have made it seem.
While I really enjoy the passion I feel from digital marketing activities, I started to feel exhausted with the amount of hours I was unnecessarily spending on minimum wage technical activities. I started craving for opportunities to deliver big results which I knew I was capable of doing in exchange for bigger fees especially knowing that I had done it before. I can’t call this experiment.
But I was also afraid of creating a new offer that could distract me from what was already working. Distraction is real and it can cost significantly more than what you are thinking when I say that. It’s a variable that’s often underrated. I feel like I am still a victim of distraction in business. Like I said, I am a little traumatized.
As a creative mind, ideas come to me all the time and I truly believe my personal net worth would be 100 times of what it is right now if I had been able to control my creative urges a little more.
I get bored easily. And boredom can be a sign of a healthy business. Do you feel me on how much of an oxymoron that is?
So I am terrified of trying new ideas when business is working well for me even though the ideas never stop flowing. Some of these ideas could potentially 100x my revenue even with less effort but because I went broke a few times trying new things; it’s a real struggle.
As best practices in marketing, you have to test your way to the results you are looking to achieve. All the data being collected should be collected as you test variables against itself at least in 2 variations at any stop in the user or customer experience.
For example, the fear that tends to overwhelm me when it’s time to test all these ideas that I get is easily mitigated once I think about them as opportunities to test for. It starts to feel like fun. In fact, testing new ideas and variations are highly recommended.
The issues come when there is no structure to guide certain levels of creative chaos. But that problem is finally solved when you master the art and science of converting data into “information”. You can then use the information to decide on scaling the new idea or killing it.
So in my story, all I had to do was to generate a certain fraction or percentage of my traffic (we also call this visits) towards my $47 offer and whatever is left of the generated traffic towards the $4,997 offer for a period of time until I’ve generated a minimum of 100 visits in total. The idea of the 100 visits is to statistically have enough samples to make a call of the winning variation. The higher the sample-visits, the better.
In the case of this example, you collected the clicks data which is 100 visits. Some analytic tools might call this 100 users or 100 clicks. You also collected 2 additional pieces of data; 2 sales of the $4,997 offer and 19 sales of the $47 offer.
Up until this point, it’s all data. But after analyzing these data points, we found that 2 sales at $4,997 is equal to $9,994 for the bottomline and 19 sales at $47 is equal to $893. With this “information”, we can make a business decision accordingly.
This activity of converting data points to meaningful information for the purpose of intelligent business decisions is called analytics. With analytics and the information you get, you can be more objective in your approach to testing new ideas for viability and therefore reduce the overall emotions in the outcome of your digital marketing campaigns.
Remember that digital marketing is all about a user or prospect journey from the first moment they land on your website until they convert to a customer. One of the many opportunities that digital marketing presents is the ability to track, monitor and measure the user behavior throughout that experience in order to use it to optimize.
While the idea is to optimize for maximized profit ultimately, the purpose also by default is to make the experience soothing for the user. You want to be able to deliver value not just with whatever the core product is, but also with the experience.
You can analyze and you can report elaborately and also visually. Business decision makers at enterprise level will most likely not have time to be digging through so many data points that today's digital analytic tools are able to collect. So these visual representations after analysis are necessary.
Data collection, which is what we covered in last chapter, is more about the “information in quantity” which are quite also useless by themselves for business decisions. But once it is analyzed and converted to information in reports, it's about “quality information”. It can be reviewed quickly by stakeholders.
95% of businesses are still failing within their first 5 years. One of the many reasons for this is an ever evolving consumer pattern. Things get older very quickly in the digital age. With digital marketing analytics, there are patterns revealed earlier enough to pivot before it impacts the business negatively.
If you haven't noticed yet, I've used the title of this chapter to simplify the understanding of digital marketing analytics. Analytics is simply a fancy way to describe analysis and reporting of user behavior data as useful, meaningful and business decision making "information."
There are 3 types of analysis that we are generally concerned about overall. Some of these terminologies may change and evolve as you continue your digital marketing journey. However, the concept is evergreen.
And the 3 types of analysis are Acquisition, Behavior and Conversion (ABC). User data is being collected and analyzed in all of these 3 segments of a user's journey on your online properties such as your website (your main hub) or one of your main nodes such as your YouTube channel or Facebook page.
In this phase, the bounce rate (which is the rate at which users are viewing only one page in a session, an indication of low engagement), the number of pages viewed per session on average and the average session duration (which is how long they are spending on your properties) are measured. As you can see, it gets into a little more analysis of the user behavior.
For example at press time, I have pulled out more recent data for the last 30 days of our Google Analytics.
We've acquired 1,042 users of which 1,020 are new users. 1,031 sessions were initiated. Let's quickly take a closer look before I get into the "behavior" segment.
When you look at the difference between 1,042 users and 1,020 new users, that means only 22 users were repeat users. Already, I don't like that number. At least, I want as close as possible to half of our total users to be repeat and revisiting users.
Hopefully, the readers that this book attracts will help us accomplish that. We will be implementing additional measures to improve that number and I will be sharing more inside myEmpirePRO Inner Circle training.
Also, only 1,031 sessions were initiated. That's barely more than one page viewed by each user. There is art and there is science to improve on engagement. But the point of this lesson is showcased in the next set of analysis; "Behavior".
In that segment, the reports indicate a 74.48% bounce rate, 1.61 pages per session and an average session duration of 1 minute and 2 seconds (00:01:02).
With regards to “conversion” such as leads or sales generation, can we use you as an example? When you acquired this book, you became a lead for our business. At the very minimum, you gave us your contact information as indication of interest in digital marketing either as a career or 7 figure side-hustle. What do all these mean?
Well... we have a little more confirmation of our first analysis which is the fact that we need to improve on our engagement level on www.myEmpirePRO.com
The reality (and I promise... not an excuse) is that we have been working on this book and a pivot into teaching more of digital marketing as a 6 figure career and 7 figure side-hustle. We expect a sharp increase as we release more in-depth training and success stories and we will be sharing.
The main point of this chapter is to highlight the transition from last chapter which was about learning these data-points and metrics into using analytics to convert them to business intelligence. And I've just demonstrated that in real time with our own main hub; www.myEmpirePRO.com
As your first step to setting up analytics for collecting, analyzing and reporting on user behavior data, you obviously need a main hub commonly known as a website. You also need the website to be self hosted. It's just a lot more unreliable to use free blogs.
I also recommend that you build this website on a content management system (CMS) called WordPress. There is a very strong reason why WordPress powers 43% of websites online right now. One of the reasons is that it is easy to set up, plug and play.
With WordPress, you can add and remove features as it automatically updates for free. In this time and digital age, you should already expect that software and apps need regular updates. I'm sure that you notice the same phenomenon on your smartphone mobile apps. Sometimes, it stops you and makes you update before continuing to use.
WordPress is the material and structure for your online property. While WordPress is a free CMS, the online property (kinda’ like a land in real life) and its digital and easy to reference address (like www.myEmpirePRO.com) is not free. But they are extremely affordable.
For as low as $5 per month, you can be hosted online. Go to www.myEmpirePRO.com/hosting and set up your WordPress powered website right away. It's quite user-friendly and that’s in addition to the fact that you can chat with live support if you need help.
They will also help you with setting up the Google Search Console for tracking and optimizing organic traffic and Google Analytics features so that you too can start collecting and analyzing user behavior data.
If you'd rather spend money than time on user and customer acquisition to your website and online properties, you might want to check out this third party analytics tool at www.myEmpirePRO.com/clickmagick I think they offer a free trial. Don't quote me.
All of these tools are self explanatory and easy to use especially if you read this book multiple times; 10-15 times. It’s necessary in order to create mastery.
And like I said earlier, we are teaching digital marketing as a 6 figure 9-5 career and also as a 7 figure side-hustle opportunity. It's wild-open and anyone can participate either as an employee (21+ job opportunities at various levels) for businesses as a digital marketing analyst or 7 figure creator or messenger as an entrepreneur.
In the next chapter, we will be addressing a major problem. According to ahref.com, 90% of online content and websites gets no traffic; ghost-land. No one comes to these websites.
Hopefully you execute today what you've learned by setting up your very own WordPress powered professional hub online. But the worst thing that can happen is to not figure out how to be in that top 10% that's getting all the online traffic and generating all the money.
If you are not generating consistent traffic of users to your website, there is no data to collect much less to analyze, report and use to optimize. It's all useless and a waste of resources.
So we will be diving into the four categories of online traffic channels and then we will break them down to the different "sources" and media. We will talk about the pros and the cons of each one. But we also have to reference them to the resources you already have available.
One of the major issues with people that try to implement digital marketing is when they don't realize that they already participate in one shape or form. I am calling that out and we will leverage your existing activities and sources of traffic online. Then we can build on top of it.
We will also cover the pros and cons of free and paid traffic generation. Some people will hurt their chances of success going after paid traffic and the same is true for some that will chase after free traffic. We will be breaking that down as we've done with the book up till this point.
Welcome back to LOLAandOLA.com. Let’s talk about the 7 stages of an emotional affair; a sequel to “5 signs of an emotional affair”.
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Let’s check out this story.
“So my wife seems to be having an emotional affair with her boss.
She locked me out of her home computer a few months back (it was shared).
Just before that I noticed she'd been trying to find a way to stop her phone messages being saved in the cloud.
When I did see some of her messages she's been texting with him all times of day and at weekends.
When she went away on a trip a couple of times, he was getting pictures and texts etc. I got nothing.
He talks back with her a lot.
She's deleted a lot of the texts (presumably the worst ones??).
Some of the texts seem to be suggestive but I can't see if they lead anywhere but I don't think anything physical has happened.
It's more flirting.”
Sorry about this trauma. It’s going to take a lot of work to get out of this funk. And I am sorry you have to go through this.
Maybe understanding the stages of emotional affairs can help you put things in better perspective so you can move forward in the most effective way.
Let’s get into it.
In order for another person to occupy the space of intimacy in a relationship, there must be some type of void.
This is not to blame or assign fault away from the transgressor to the other partner but to highlight the fact that it is what it is.
If you caught your partner in this type of bad behavior, always remember it’s not your fault but that’s not equivalent to not assuming responsibility in the overall status of your relationship.
You’ve always had friends anyway. For women, they often need to feel safe and secure.
So the closest person to that when there is a void they want to fill in their present relationship or marriage are ex’s.
Ladies. Be careful with keeping friendships with your exes. It might seem innocent because after all there are stages.
You probably already know that everything feels wrong but right at the same time with this inappropriate relationship.
If you are not careful, you will eventually find yourself justifying it. Don’t wait for it because again, friendship is a seemingly innocent stage of emotional affairs.
In this stage, the transgressor is getting comfortable and starting to share intimate details with the loser on the side.
Why are they losers? It’s just the reality because you are clearly not 100% emotionally available but yet, they are hoping to build something serious usually.
There is a void as I stated in stage one but it is not the same thing as being emotionally available which is a requirement for a healthy relationship.
Not only was that lady sharing details, when she went away on a trip a couple of times, the loser was getting pictures and texts while the husband got nothing.
At this point, the marriage is in the danger zone.
What happens next? The transgressor is leaving exhibits and digital footprints on SMS, text messages and WhatsApp right?
These are now secrets which in this context can be described somewhat as lies. They have to tell more lies and create more secrets to cover up.
But there is a problem.
No matter how much they try to delete messages, it gets worse because even though… remember that story…
“She's deleted a lot of the worst texts ,the remaining seem to be suggestive.”
Yes he couldn’t see if they led anywhere or think anything physical had happened. But the mind doesn’t know that.
Up till this stage, nothing has necessarily happened physically. But the natural order of things is for the mind to engage images of going all the way through.
At this stage, the transgressor is starting to fantasize not just about physical intimacy but also about what life could be like with the side person.
The mind won’t rest or let’s flip it. The mind may not be able to comprehend the danger in all of these until a physical act has happened.
That’s why people would call it a mistake while in reality this can only be realistically described as premeditated in reality.
At this stage, the transgressor has spent a lot of energy on this side relationship. Yes. they might as well call it a relationship because it’s denial.
They’ve started to fantasize about life with this person and the last thing they want you to call the interaction is an affair.
If you don’t speak to them in a day, your mind won't rest. It’s an unhealthy dependency because you can’t really live in truth; nonetheless a dependency.
Don’t forget that the transgressor still depends on the actual partner for something hence the difficulty in just leaving as opposed to cheating.
At this stage, a transgressor is actively trying to turn a lie into a truth.
Actually, they are probably being honest since they have been intimate with another person consistently over a period of time.
There is an illusion of greener grass on the other side.
So even though it’s a dishonest lifestyle, it was filling a void and therefore feels like the truth and it’s just being actively justified.
At least, it might feel justified. It is not. That band aid must be ripped off that open and rotten wound once and for all.
Many pieces of advice on the internet will probably be conclusive and I know that you probably don’t want to end the marriage. So it’s confusing at best.
You might not know how far the affair has gone but it really doesn’t matter. Emotional affairs can hurt just as much if not more because of the fear of the unknown.
Reference our last video for recovery tips if you’ve caught your partner in this bad behavior. It’s called “5 Signs of An Emotional Affair + 5 RECOVERY TIPS”.
We share our own story inside the book "GET MY MARRIAGE BACK" which you can download for free at www.GetMyMarriageBack.com
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CHAPTER 7 The Data - In 2010, I was in a partnership with my brother and we thought we could make things move a little faster with growing the business.
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The New Jersey Northeast Corridor train line travels all the way through our neighborhood from the greatest city in the world, New York City, to the state capital city, Trenton.
So many professionals get on and off this train all week during rush hours daily. These were the types of people we wanted as prospects for the business we were trying to build. So we thought why not print a bunch of flyers and give them out to all the people coming off the train at 5:45pm in the evening. Great idea right?
No it wasn’t. Let me explain. First of all, it was a gross assumption on our part that most people ever want to be sold unsolicited products even if it’s free. It's a red flag at best.
As they collected the flyers from us, which seems like it was done out of pity, they dumped them in the next visible garbage.
I understood it but damn; it hurt. Not only did we spend money on printing those flyers, we also spent time and even worse; a lot of emotional energy anticipating success.
Anyway, we did not get a single person from that terrible marketing to sign up. I don’t believe it was particularly because of the marketing channel. I think it was more so because there is no focused way of tracking the success or some type of progress from this activity at least for us at the time.
We just wanted to get the words out as soon as possible. But oftentimes, that’s the mindset of people who lack strategy. Marketing with no strategy? You might as well grab a lighter and burn down your money.
So we were talking about the list in the last chapter right? You learned about the mistake that has cost me millions of dollars over the years. By the way, I continue to have urges to mess with the same mistakes.
You learned that the timing is not always right for your prospect but you must set up in a way that the timing is always right for you to serve when they are ready.
How do you do that? It’s as simple as serving your prospect the old fashioned way by serving first in exchange for their contact information. That gives you the power to re-engage and re-market to them at a lesser cost.
The original discovery and exposure of your business to prospects cost you marketing dollars right? But when you focus on list building as the main objective of that front end campaign of your business, it offsets your marketing cost dramatically.
In that chapter, you learn the various ways to ensure that you are capturing leads (contact information) even when you are offering free shipping and handling. The ultimate goal is still to capture contact information and build a list of these highly targeted prospects.
This list we are talking about becomes the greatest asset of the company since money comes from only one place; from people.
You learned that it’s not just about the data, email addresses, phone numbers and people’s names. It’s more so about the fact that the individuals associated with this data have demonstrated high interest in what is being offered.
Remember. You learned that many people will attempt to sell you data online. But they will mostly be selling you useless data of prospects who haven’t shown or demonstrated interest in your offer.
At best, you will lose money in these types of activities. There are some hacks around retargeting purchased data online with major advertising platforms. It’s still a gamble.
But I wasn’t even talking about that type of data. There is a big problem.
There is nothing worse than getting excited about the extremely profitable opportunities that digital marketing presents and then losing your life savings to Facebook and Google trying to implement.
Remember that money I lost in 5 minutes? It is even easier to waste resources on marketing that doesn’t collect data. If you are not tracking the present status and performance of your marketing campaigns, how could you possibly create a plan to get you to a desired destination?
To jump on an advertising platform is one of the easiest things to do nowadays. It’s user friendly. But again, it’s just as easy to lose money. In fact, the more buoyant you are, the easier it is for you to lose money.
On the flip side, if you are broke, you would be watching every penny which takes your focus off collecting big enough samples to create a profitable business.
Most people initiating digital marketing campaigns might set up a $5 per day ad campaign and leave it running. By the time they get charged $150 on the 30th day, they suddenly realize that these advertising platforms know exactly what they are doing. They are not playing. They will take your money in a heartbeat.
At press time, Meta Platforms Inc (formerly Facebook) is worth USD $372.52 Billion and Alphabet Inc (The owner of Google) is worth a whopping USD $1.29 Trillion. They don’t need your money if you are not going to make money from advertising with them.
But also, they continue to make serious money because digital marketing works for many companies. One of the factors that separates the losers and the winners in digital marketing is data.
Every marketing activity creates some type of data. The question is are you collecting that data?
In our flyer story that I shared with you earlier, we couldn’t tell you how many flyers we printed and how many ended up in the garbage. That’s a major problem.
It’s not enough to just plan and execute a digital marketing campaign. You set a smart goal from inception right? But there are also so many stops before the destination which is probably a net profit.
How much did you spend on the campaign and how much was the revenue that was generated from it? That’s too wide of a gap to wait on executing in order to track and ensure success.
When a prospect encounters your ad for the first time, that is a discovery. An impression was created. That’s literally the first goal that we want to track.
How many impressions did your business, message or ad receive in the last 28 days, last 7 days and yesterday? The answer is data that we want to continue to collect because the more it is, the better; all things being equal. It means exposure.
When you are a novice in marketing like my brother and I were, you are marketing but you are not collecting data to measure success. And if you do, you are not doing so unless an actual sale has happened.
That’s not good enough because you are not able to troubleshoot and diagnose without involving so much emotion. But when you start collecting meaningful data as early as when an impression is created for an ad, an image, a copy or a message, you stand a better chance at tracking performance as early as possible all the way till success.
And even when data indicates an undesirable result, you are able to generate that data much faster and earlier. That also means that you are able to pivot and adjust much earlier in the direction of the results you want to create.
The answer is data and data collection. It’s just a fancy way of saying success tracking. With digital marketing, you are able to track micro-levels of success. Unmanaged expectations only lead to disappointments. So it is necessary to have ways to track and measure expectations, goals and objectives in order to avoid overall disappointments.
Without it, you will keep wasting a significant amount of your resources on marketing activities that, not just fail, but also leave you with a bad taste in your mouth; kinda like distributing a bunch of flyers that get thrown in the garbage right in front of you.
What if you are tracking how many of those flyers go in the garbage along with how many calls you get from the ones that were kept? More importantly, are you patient enough to be tracking this data? The more you add yourself physically into the process, the less chances that you even know how to track your marketing properly in the digital age.
Tracking these data allows you to identify benchmarks and baselines to track your marketing performance against. It facilitates exponential growth and reduces your chances of entertaining costly distractions across the board.
In business, there is often a confusion between methods of performance analysis. Between qualitative or quantitative analysis, which one is better? It depends on who you are asking and their general outlook on data-driven business decisions.
By tracking these numbers, you are better positioned to objectively orchestrate the results you are looking to create from your digital marketing campaigns. The data being collected becomes available for further analysis and competitive advantage. Your competitors will have a hard time matching your level of performance.
On the flip side, many emotions are involved and camouflaged as qualitative analysis when you put your heart and soul into dinosaur and old school marketing activities. You are telling yourself a lie that will consume your resources and return almost nothing.
So let’s break down 7 or 8 of the most important metrics you will encounter on a consistent basis when collecting digital marketing performance data over a period of time. The period is typically set as default at “last 28 days”. But it can also be “last 7 days”, last 90 days, last 365 days or even lifetime. Let’s identify the different metrics.
Impression - This is the number of times a digital creative (content, ad copy, image, video etc) is visible to the human eyes.
Users - This is the number of individuals that have seen a digital creative. If one person sees the same content twice, it is counted as one user because it’s the same user. On some platforms, the number of users is also called “reach”. This metric is also broken down to new and returning users. Ideally, you want both metrics to be increasing.
An increasing number of new users means you are doing a good job at attracting new eyeballs on a consistent basis. And increasing returning users means you are delivering value that’s highly engaging; potentially creating repeat customers.
Click - This is the number of times creatives are engaged with a mouse click or mobile's finger or stylus tap that actually redirects a loaded webpage to another.
View or Pageview - While the clicks we are mostly concerned about redirects the user to another webpage, it doesn’t always result in a full pageview. Pageview is the metric that measures the number of times a page is fully loaded by a user.
This is called a view if the main creative on the page is a video that autoplays at a full page load. However, not all page views lead to a video view because some videos are not set to auto play.
Lead Conversion - This the conversion metric that measures the number of user contacts that are captured for list building and future follow up; indicative of a higher interest.
Sale Conversion - This is the conversion metric that measures the number of transactions that increase revenue. On some data collection and tracking platforms, a conversion is also called an action or a goal.
Cost - This is the total amount of dollars spent on marketing and advertising. And here is a bonus but probably the most important metric.
Revenue - This is the total amount of money generated associated with, tracked or attributed to running a digital campaign.
Presently, we have two main digital marketing projects that I’d love to share with you. These are real life businesses and I’d love to share a few examples of data we are collecting with you at press time.
As a matter of fact, two email notifications came in as I am writing this chapter. They usually come in between the 1st and the 3rd day of every month from the Google Search Console team. This report is particularly received for sites that generate organic traffic from Google search.
So our first main project is myEmpirePRO.com which generated 19,700 impressions and 224 clicks in the whole of the last month. There were also 38 pages with their first impressions ever. That means Google showed these 38 webpages to their users for the first time ever.
New content achievements such as the top three growing pages generating more clicks from the search engine results page (SERP) ranking was also reported. The top two growing pages generated 5 more clicks than the previous month and the third runners up generated two more clicks than previous month’s.
Also top performing pages with the highest total number of clicks generated was also reported. The highest performing page generated 44 clicks, the second runners up generated 24 clicks and the third runners up generated 19 clicks. There is more data reported and also a button to take you into the full report hosted on the Google search console.
Our second project is LOLAandOLA.com which generated 24,600 impressions and 519 clicks in the whole of the previous month. There were also 15 pages with their first impressions ever. Again, that means Google showed these 15 webpages to their users for the first time ever.
New content achievements such as the top three growing pages generating more clicks from the search engine results page (SERP) ranking was also reported. The highest growing page generated 10 more clicks than the previous month’s, the second and third generated 8 more clicks each than the previous month’s.
Also top performing pages with the highest total number of clicks generated was also reported. The highest performing page generated 64 clicks, the second runners up generated 47 clicks and the third runners up generated 45 clicks.
We have access to these data and so much more which means we can track the performance of these digital marketing campaigns. That means we can scale the winners and kill the losers.
This is what I want you to do to start collecting these data-set for your digital marketing activities. I want you to set up two tools on your self hosted web projects. Two tracking tools set is perfect because there is no one single tracking tool that is perfect. They all have discrepancies in their collected data.
Google Search Console - These sets of tools and reports help you measure your site's search traffic and performance, fix issues, and make your site shine in Google Search results.
The data sets I shared with you from the monthly reports of our two projects are from that console. It’s particularly good for you if you want to invest time and resources into generating organic traffic for the Google search engine.
Simply go to: https://search.google.com/search-console/
Add your website information, click continue, and follow the instructions to start collecting the data. It’s free like many Google tools and modules. If the interface is a little different by the time you are reading this, just follow the instructions on the screen.
For traffic that we are generating from sources other than organic, we use a third party tracking that helps us to, not only measure clicks data, but also optimize ads and the whole sales process.
Check it out at: myEmpirePRO.com/clickmagick
It comes with more flexibility if you don’t want to depend on the reports from the ad platforms selling your traffic; avoiding conflict of interest.
What do we do with the data we are collecting? How do we leverage them to facilitate growth and better performance? That’s what we will cover in the next chapter.
We will get into generating useful information from these data sets to make better business decisions.
Do I need to remind you that 95% of businesses fail within their first 5 years? A lot of the business decisions they make are emotions-driven; that’s why. And it gets worse when they notice that they are losing money.
So you will be learning how to generate useful and presentable information that business decision makers leverage to grow sales and revenue in a digital age.
We might also talk about how to flip information into a $204,555 monthly revenue business. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably isn’t. But then that means there is a little probability left to assess right?
After all in this digital era, it’s all numbers, data, ones and zeros. If you are not leveraging this opportunity, it’s okay. Being average is pretty normal too.
And by the way, you can also overdo data collection and analysis. Overkill does exist when you are obsessed with tracking everything trackable.
Just like in every endeavor, modesty is key when tracking performance at every level of your digital marketing campaigns. Every performance tracking activity consumes energy and therefore must be managed.
Let’s talk about the 5 signs of an emotional affair.
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“I am 38 years old. I recently realized my 34 years old wife has had an emotional affair for the last four years.
The past two weeks have been hell for me. We've been married for 9 years and have two beautiful kids.
I caught my wife last week chatting with someone and when I confronted her she said it was just a casual talk with a friend for stress relief and that it started a few months ago.
As I dug up more evidence she has gradually admitted that the affair started four years ago and now has finally admitted that he was her ex lover in college.
She has apologized and said that she will end for good and that she is ashamed of having continued it for so long.
But I find myself obsessively rewinding all the things I did over the last four years.
She had the affair through almost half of our married life, through the birth of our second child and even when I was hospitalized.
I can’t seem to move on and have a gnawing feeling of doubt mixed with anger, jealousy and sadness.”
First of all, I am very sorry for the emotional pain this has probably caused you and your family. This is not going to be easy.
An emotional affair involves emotional intimacy with a person other than a partner that you are committed to even when it doesn’t involve physical intimacy. It can hurt just as much if not more.
As usual, we want to share the top 5 signs that you or your marriage may be suffering from an emotional affair. And then we will add 5 tips for recovery for you.
Let’s get into it.
So this sign is like two-in-one because sometimes the transgressor is also wondering if their behavior is inappropriate or dangerous.
If you find yourself fantasizing over and over about another person in a romantic way, this may be a sign of an emotional affair or a brewing one at least.
On the flip side, if you notice that your partner seems absent in the relationship, there is usually no vacuum of energy. There is a reason.
Your partner is probably intimate with another person at least emotionally. After all, we are talking about something that’s all in the mind.
But then everything in life starts from the mind.
Recovery tip number five is that it’s not your fault.
But then I am guessing we are talking about a person you love and want to nurture a better relationship with.
So “this”... not being your fault doesn’t mean you can’t assume responsibility in rekindling your relationship with a better foundation.
Naturally when a partner is involved in inappropriate behavior, they might start doing things in secret.
The concept of a secret lover is not a joke. But it doesn’t necessarily start like that. It starts long before that.
We are talking about signs right? The symptoms! That’s why you want to make sure you watch the next video on the stages of emotional affairs.
At this stage however, it’s probably becoming obvious that your partner is actively hiding something over a period of time.
If they were planning a surprise party for you, this suspicious feeling you have… probably won’t last longer than a couple of weeks.
Recovery tip number four if it’s no longer a secret is that you should take some time and space away from the relationship.
There is no good decision that can be made when you are hurting emotionally.
If you are on the receiving side of this bad behavior, you are probably starting to hear your spouse compare you to random others.
You’ve been noticing that nothing you do is good enough. But also, there is an unfair comparison with your partner’s friends, siblings or randoms.
As a transgressor, you should simply know that the grass is probably greener on the other side because someone is watering it or it’s flat-out synthetic.
It’s FAKE!
Our recovery tip number three is that you should engage wise counsel. Better yet if you can afford it, engage a therapist.
Don’t attempt to get out of this funk with common sense tactics, advice or by your own self. It’s much more complicated than right and wrong.
Ideally, your partner should be spending their gist and relaxation time with you because we are all busy with life right?
You can’t wait to come back to a partner you are in love with.
So when a partner seems like they’d rather spend hours on the phone with some other BFF who acts as their emotional tampon, it might be a sign of concern.
Likewise if you’ve noticed that you enjoy time with some old friend, especially an ex, that’s the danger zone and the end is probably not going to be good.
Recovery tip number two - If you catch your partner already, like the story I shared earlier, determine if they still want the marriage.
It’s not the determining factor if you should leave the marriage or not but it’s a condition because you can’t afford to negotiate “desire” in a romantic relationship.
So none of these signs are valid unless it’s consistent over a period of time. There is no one event that can dictate the fate of your relationship.
You must have noticed emotional absence, secrecy tendencies, unfair comparisons, inappropriate engagements with friends… all of these signs over a period of time.
As for recovery tip number one, do you still want the marriage? Rember that you can’t want the marriage more than your partner in this type of situation.
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CHAPTER 5 The List - So in April, 2009, I was fresh out of the real estate crash and I was attempting different things. I built an online mall. I discovered affiliate marketing for the first time. And I tried to use the concept to invent a cashback mall. Today, you can see many cash back opportunities with credit cards, retail reward programs attached to different websites.
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Anyway, I paid a couple of hundred dollars for a home study course and I learned about the Google Ads platform for the first time. Back then and up till not too long ago, it was called Google Adwords.
The concept was simple. All I had to do was find a product on an affiliate network that paid a commission for generating sales. In order to generate sales, all I had to do was give my special trackable link to a prospect and I would earn a commission if a sale was generated as a result of clicking my trackable link.
In my mind at that moment, I had hit a jackpot. So I searched through the product affiliate network and found an e-book on generating real estate fortunes. I could relate because the previous few years before that… that was my life; real estate.
I decided to set up my first Good Adwords campaign and in about 5 minutes, Google had charged my credit card for $700. A $47 sales was generated. I panicked and I turned the damn campaign off immediately.
So let’s do the math. $700 minus $47 is equal to $653 in net loss. But also, I generated the million dollar lesson that I am about to share with you right now. I’ve used it so many times since then as a guide whenever I'm setting up any type of campaign, especially with digital marketing.
In the last chapter, we discussed “the system”, input, tools, techniques, processes and outputs. We talked about how important it is build a campaign in a self-sustainable way so that you do not have to be a slave to making it work.
To a large extent, humans are still needed to test, run and scale successful digital marketing campaigns. But ideally, you want to set it up in a way that humans are only needed for the set up, and data analysis for scaling growth.
And with “humans in this respect, I am not talking about the human prospects or audience to the campaign. I am talking about the digital marketer or the entrepreneur seeking to build the audience and subsequently sales generation for a business.
We discussed the fact that many tools are available in the marketplace for digital marketing. In fact, the majority of them will be described as systems. And frankly, they are all systems in their own right as long as an input, a process and an output are identifiable.
All processes can in fact be described as a system. But I need you to understand that each of your digital marketing campaigns or projects is a standalone system that involves multiple processes hopefully with trackable and measurable inputs and outputs.
This is how to turn a complex process into super simple and easy to understand and implementable execution. If I come to you and ask you to break down a brand awareness campaign for a new version of the Toyota Highlander on the Meta/Facebook Advertising platform, you can now draw a plan on a piece of paper in effort to understand what the inputs and the outputs would be.
What resources are available and what are the desired outcomes of the campaign? It’s a mindset shift. In addition to that, you will increase the chances of better outputs from the campaign just for having a plan.
But there is a major problem. The gentleman who was the actual instructor of the Google Adwords home study course actually described different types of campaigns.
He talked about the first one which is a sales generation campaign. It involved setting up a campaign that landed on a sales presentation page as soon as you clicked the ad in the search engine results page (THE SERP).
In digital marketing, there is something called “the bounce”.
A bounce happens when a user clicks a marketing message to land into your website but the landing page is the only page they viewed. In real life, they typically don't like what they see and they click the ‘BACK’ button to go back to the SERP.
So when you set up a campaign with traffic or clicks as the objective, a bounce means you just lost money equivalent to the cost of that one click. The ultimate objective is to create sales right? What are the chances that a sale will be generated from any given click on your ad?
From decade-long experience, it’s 10% or less no matter how good your sales copy is.
So how did I end up with a $700 bill and a $47 sale which entitled me to only 50% commission ($23.50) by the way? I generated tons of clicks and the majority of them turned out to be a bounce for many possible reasons. Each one of the clicks cost me a certain amount of money.
For the sake of simplicity, let’s assume that each click cost me $1.07. So that means (700 divided by $1.07) 654 clicks on the ad generated that $700 bill. After 5 minutes, only one sale was generated. That would be one sale divided by 654 clicks and then multiplied by 100%. That’s equal to 0.15% sales per click rate.
At that rate, how long will it take to break even if I ever do? As you can see, I am probably better off building a business the traditional route.
The second type of campaign that the instructor shared in the home study course was a list building campaign. In this type of campaign, the ultimate objective is no longer sales. Okay. It is sales for the business but not just “sales”. The ultimate objective is maximizing profits.
As a newbie in digital marketing, I was super excited about the idea of working from home or from the beach with a laptop generating money on demand. Who doesn’t want that? So my natural instinct was to choose the clicks generation campaign objective camouflaged as sales objective. At the back of my mind, a lot of clicks would turn to sales since they had interest.
I went ahead and set up a clicks or traffic generation campaign without thinking things all the way through and properly. It was a short sighted strategy and it burnt me badly. Let me explain.
In that example that I gave earlier, there were (654 minus 1 sale) 653 prospects that I paid actual money to attract to my landing page with the sales presentation right? Those people had actual interest as evident by their action. They actually clicked the ad.
But if I wanted to attract them again, I would have to spend another $700 and there is no guarantee that I would get them to buy the product. In fact, if the number worked out the way it did before, I would now be ($1,400 minus $47) $1,353 in the hole; net loss. It’s getting worse right?
Everytime, I want to sell a product to these people that I’ve identified as having interest, I would have to spend money and potentially lose more money. This is not turning out to be a profitable venture so far right?
From the previous chapters, you learned that 85% of people make buying decisions based on emotions and justify with logic later. You also learned that they are more likely to buy from you when they feel like they know, like and trust you. Do you still remember the KLT factor and brand equity? So we know that the fewer the exposure to your brand is, the more unlikely it is for the prospect to buy.
With list building as the objective of a front end digital marketing campaign, you are now able to remarket to prospects with established interests without spending more money. As a business owner, of course and hopefully you understand the principles of sowing in order to reap. You are going to have to spend money to make money.
But it’s obviously better if you can spend money one time to attract targeted prospects with a certain level of interest rather than for every single time you need to attract them to your website. If the main objective on the front end is to capture their contact information into a list, you can then contact them more times with your paid offer after the initial contact.
Let me ask you a question. Which action do you think would be easier to get your website user to take on their first encounter with you? Is it easier to get them to pull out their credit card to buy a product or is it easier to get them to give out their contact information in order to receive a free sample or additional information on a solution they are already interested in?
Your guess is as good as mine. It’s probably easier to get them to spend no money right? ….especially if they don’t feel like they know, like or trust you yet. Since you are capturing contact information, you are able to put a lot of focus on building that KLT factor or brand equity until they feel comfortable to buy; the ultimate goal.
It’s also better like this because of the magnitude of the impact you are leaving on your prospects long before they decided to do business with you and long after. They are even more inclined to refer more business to you. You are maximizing the output of your marketing input and resources simply for understanding the power of list building as a front end digital marketing campaign objective.
Think of it as a follow-up strategy in a traditional business model. Follow up is another form of marketing except that it will now cost you almost nothing and a lot less effort to convert a prospect to a customer. This will massively offset your marketing cost.
There are many more benefits to list building as core digital marketing strategy but let me leave you with these two benefits.
Sales on Demand - When you diligently build a list of prospects, you can send a quick email just like that and have your mortgage for the month paid.
Community Building - In addition to the heightened need to build brand equity due to competition, it’s also important to build a community around your business. List building makes it super simple to drive prospects into a discussion group where you can even get better opportunities to develop new ideas into more products.
The first step to list building is to find or create a free and valuable offer. This book is an example of a free offer that we use to generate leads and build our list. As we were marketing this book to 17 million people to download for free, this comment was left on one of the ads.
“Just Think...who would PAY for an advert and THEN give you somthing for FREE...Scammers are clever people.....”
And this was my reply….
“False. People who created value, like a book, that you probably will never create and use it to generate leads for potentially more business... aka... opportunity to give more value. Why are you triggered by the idea of people making money? You should see a therapist. The book is free and that's that. Drink some water.”
Now that was a little harsh for a reply. I guess that person caught me on a good day because we generally delete negative comments. It’s just pointless to reply to people who have made up their mind not to do business with you. But you get the gist.
It might be a product sample that you are offering your target audience. It’s free and they get to have a taste of enjoying your product or services. You might have seen examples of products being offered in exchange for just the cost of shipping.
Surprise… surprise. When you pay for the shipping and handling, your contact information which includes your physical shipping address is also captured all legally. That’s how you print money with digital marketing.
Like I said, I use the same method to build my business over the years. But I have to be 100% honest with you. I’ve had moments of non-profitable greed when I attempted to sell to strangers without getting to know them and more importantly getting them to know me; brand equity.
That behavior has cost me millions of dollars in net loss. When you are in a desperate place, it’s easy to fall back on natural “common sense based” instincts which assume that a good offer is good enough. A good offer is absolutely a necessity. But so is timing for your prospect and audience. It’s not always the right time for your prospect but you must set up and position your digital marketing campaigns in a way that the timing is always right for your campaigns to sell to a prospect who is ready to buy.
Go to your favorite social media platform and click on one of the ads you see. They typically have “sponsored” as a label next to them. What that means is that someone is paying money to the platform to target you with an offer.
Click on about 10 ads and observe how they attempt to capture your contact information; email, phone number, physical address etc. Also, pay attention to what type of free offer they are exchanging for it. Make sure it’s not a brand that you’ve seen before because that most likely wouldn’t be a first time or front end exposure ad. It’s probably a remarketing campaign.
Speaking of remarketing campaigns, in recent years, you can capture people into ad platform custom audiences once they take certain actions or engage with your ad. Although, I wouldn’t count on just that as a form of list building but it’s doable if your marketing budget is big enough for that type of risk.
However if you lose that ad account which can happen, you might lose the opportunity to be able to market to the audiences you build in it. That’s very costly.
By the way, we use the same system I mentioned in the last chapter for list building and you can check it out at www.myEmpirePRO.com/listbuilding The ultimate goal here is not just to make sales but to maximize profits. Some of the easiest sales you will make will be from existing customers.
It just makes sense because if they received value from doing business with you in the past, they will naturally be inclined to do more business. Having a third-party tool and system to maintain your list and community outside of the ad platform is literally freedom.
Your ad platform custom audiences (as we will cover later), social media fans and followers are not as powerful as a list that you nurture and maintain independently. And that’s why I recommend a third party tool that has its own embeddable webform to capture the contact information, marketing automation feature to engage and convert prospects into customers, clients and deals.
I know that I mentioned earlier that one tool can handle so much more than one process. But it is important to separate features on the advertising platform from your list building system as a form of security and risk mitigation. You don’t want to have all your fruits in one basket.
So it is not necessarily smart to leave all the processes from lead to sales generation on one platform. Platforms do collapse. Account profiles can also be banned, shadow banned and deleted.
In the next section of Digital Marketing Certified , we are going to dive into performance and how to track and monitor it. There are way too many businesses that have no ways of ensuring growth and quality in the processes. At the end of the day, it's a competitive market place.
Your prospects will spend that money with or without you selling to them. Some other smarter or wiser, direct or indirect competitor will collect that money from them. It might as well be you right?
To ensure growth from quarter to quarter, you must measure your digital marketing performance across a few dimensions.
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And we are happy to continue to share tips from our 18+ years experience in this game of marriage and relationships.
Today, we are responding to 3 different comments and messages. And the first one says…
“Going through this right now. We still do things at home together, stop going out due to the separation…”
And here is the second one…
“I have all the 5 signs that show a wife's disrespect to her husband. Now I'm wondering how to deal with those wives with these signs.”
This was actually a comment response to a video we did a while back that has 20,000+ views on it.
Just search “5 Signs Your Wife DOESN’T RESPECT YOU LOLA and OLA” on Youtube after watching this. It comes right up.
Here is a quick recap of the 5 signs of a disrespectful wife that was mentioned in that video:
1 - She utters rude remarks
2 - She gives you the silent treatment
3 - She doesn't sought after your advice and opinion
4 - She seems to honor other people's advices and opinions more
5 - She doesn't defend you when necessary
And then there was this comment…
“My wife started to disrespect me in secret back in 2022. She started lying and twerking on TikTok, commenting on guys' pictures and videos etc.
I just found this out this year after a big argument and I made one just to check and I couldn't believe that I was watching my wife.
So I made her delete TikTok and I got on her Facebook and almost the same stuff. But when I asked her to delete it, she blocked me and told me I need to act my age.
And that people onTikTok don't mean anything.
I said of course they do if you post this kinda’ content, then liking their comments when honestly they are calling you a 304 and me a fool.”
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As usual, we have consolidated the answer into 5 tips to help you deal with a disrespectful wife even in the middle of a separation.
Let’s get into it.
This is probably not the time to start buying flowers and begging her to work on the relationship. I want you to focus on being comfortable with each other even if it doesn’t involve romance.
The fear that will probably creep through you is this. “What if she actually moves on?”
The question is moving on to what? After all, you need a confidence that showcases that you are the best option for her anyway.
Just trust the process and let go of everything you believed about marriage except friendship for now.
The strength of the friendship you build in this period has no choice but to spread to everything else way better than obsession and attachments could.
It’s always good to wait for the decision maker of the present status to decide to change that decision. It’s even better when you emotionally attract them to do so.
People can argue this with me… but when women go on social media to twerk, it’s a sign of insecurity and low self esteem.
She is most likely crazing unhealthy attention and it’s to do so when she doesn’t value what she has at home.
The point is that there are deeper issues at play and what you are seeing as signs are ordinary symptoms.
Guess what happens when you treat symptoms. It will give you a fake sense of relief but it’s coming back.
And when it comes back, the symptoms are going to be worse because the disease never left. It might even be cancerous and spread to other areas that weren't previously infected.
So don’t focus too much on the symptoms or signs. A root cause analysis is needed.
Let me guess. I know what you are thinking.
You are thinking that married couples, space and distance don’t go together. But that’s actually not how attraction works.
One of the signs of low levels of attraction is disrespect and in Nigeria slangs we can also call that “see finish”.
When a relationship is no longer exciting for whatever reasons, it’s easy to find laying around convenient reasons to be disrespectful.
Put it like this. A woman who is in love with you will find it hard to be disrespectful even if there are good excuses… I’m not sure if there is a good excuse.
Distance makes the heart fonder. It may be as simple as taking each other for granted for being around too much.
You need space. If you are not careful, she will be asking you for space very soon.
When you say what you have to say to address a disrespect, make sure you mean it.
A sign that you don’t really mean it or believe it is when you have to repeat yourself.
If a disrespectful wife is not responding to your request after saying it more than 2 times, there is a chance that form of communication is not working.
There is also a chance that there are deeper issues that you will likely not find out because you are busy talking too much.
Your rare ability to let it go after saying what you have to say no more than 2 times demonstrates self confidence, self worth, self respect and more.
Speaking of self respect…
As we were preparing for this episode, a further elaboration came through the comment section to one of the earlier comments.
And I quote…
“I know she has narcissistic tendencies cause we'll be fine now… as long as I don't bring it up… if I do… she say things like may we should be apart if I don't trust her or threaten not to talk to me if I bring it up
She ignores me basically. We lost our apartment and when she left, she took the kids and my car. I just moved back to South Carolina and started working there.
But we haven't had sex in a month. She said she is not in the mood because of the situation we are in.
We will be fine for a week or two, then she'll go run behind people who only wanna talk to her because she's driving around in a 2021 Charger and kinda’ ignore me.
Then my trust issues come into play and she starts threatening to leave me again or she'll say something to damage my ego more than it already is.
I got her to take down the other Facebook page and the one she had pictures of me on but she still blocked me because I’d be starting with people on her page because someone liked or commented on her picture or post.
I'm feeling better now though. I want my wife back… the girl I married 4 years ago and got 4 kids with and been with for 12 years.”
You see. There is so much going on in that comment that points towards lack of self-respect. There are just some things that you will never have time for when you have adequate self-respect.
At least, you will be willing to let a disrespectful wife go until she figures out where her priorities lie if she is confused about that.
But I get it. It’s easier said than done.
Nonetheless, you have to understand that your wife is only capable of mimicking and matching the level of respect you have for yourself.
We are speaking from experience.
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CHAPTER 5 The System - I have to go back to 1997 to make this make sense. It looked like I was going to be at home for a while before heading to some kind of higher education, so I decided to take a 3 months introductory course in computers.
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The first thing I learned that continues to show up for the next 25 years for me… What was it? It was input, CPU (central processing unit) and output; the three basic parts of a personal computer. Since then there have been multiple versions of that.
But what it did was allow me to understand at a fundamental level what value a computer brings to our lives from a system stand point. And I continue to believe in every aspect of life that the best part about humans is the ability to build systems that work even when we can’t.
A system is a set of parts or principles that work together to create a desired outcome. The outcome can actually be a part of the system or a recursive input into the system to create an even better outcome or output.
And Like I said, the first thing I learn about computers is its 3 basic parts namely input devices such as the keyboard, the CPU which contains the memory for storage and processes information coming through the input devices and lastly, the output devices such as the monitor to see visuals of the work being performed by the computer or to store information on external storage.
The external storage device that was popular back in 1997 was a floppy disk. While you can use it to store information digitally as an output from the CPU, it is often inserted back as input into the CPU for additional, better and improved output.
In this chapter, we are going to explore the concept of systems and how it applies at micro and macro levels when it comes to digital marketing.
But in the previous chapter, we talked about “The Connection” in so many dimensions. We talked about frame of reference. It’s a concept that we will revisit again because this whole thing is about the customer journey. And your ability to take them on an experience is a big determining factor in the level of success that you are able to create.
As I said in the last chapter, many businesses go back and forth between futuristic marketing and old school media that doesn’t work anymore such as newspapers and yellow books ads. Remember, this is about “The Persons”, the people and catering to your identified audience.
95% of businesses are already going to fail within their first five years. Feel free to attribute that terrible result to a lack of connection between “The Value” and “The Persons”. It just makes sense right?
We covered the idea of pre-framing the mind of your prospect so that the natural order of action is to create an order; buy your offer. Hopefully now, you understand that people need to “feel” like they know, like and trust you as part of the pre-framing. And getting people to convert to customers, clients, deals and partners start to feel almost effortless.
Very importantly, we covered a tool that helps us create a spider web of these agents and connections all over the world wide web. Do you recall the content management system? The CMS right? My favorite CMS, Wordpress, controls 40% of the CMS market share.
That is a good thing because of the ever evolving nature of everything digital. So like typical software, there are constant and seamless updates of bells and whistles to make your customers’ experiences super-cutting edge. In this era, you as a business owner or digital marketer cannot afford to operate on stale systems.
With that being said, let’s get into systems when it comes to digital marketing and digital based businesses. You guessed it right. It starts with an input.
In 2009, I got introduced to the world of multilevel marketing and direct sales. The truth is that it wasn’t just about finding customers. In fact, the majority of the income came from building a team. Being a self-motivated person that I’ve always been, I got to work right away, and I recruited my brother into my downline.
The idea behind the business model leverages people's immediate circle of influence to first… sell the business opportunity to and then second, sell them products if they are not interested in building the business.
My brother figured out quickly that the main input into the business model was people. The owners of these multilevel marketing businesses such as Amway, Herbalife, TransAmerica, Primerica etc. simply need people.
But there is a problem. Sure, we can probably go through the contacts of our smart phones and find 100 people. The issue is that we usually haven’t connected with these people in a long time. So even though they are people, they are not necessarily suitable inputs for the business model. Hence many of the reps get frustrated until they quit the business.
Also, we are talking about a business model that requires face-to-face sales skills. While a lot of the leaders and trainers in that industry continue to tell their teammates that sales is not involved, nothing could be further from the truth. The reality is that money is expected to exchange hands with an opportunity; a business opportunity or at least a product.
So even the second part of this business system is flawed with mostly non-capable business owners and processes that aren't updated for the digital era. No arguments. If it’s working for you, keep doing what you are doing because it works right?
In the last few years, many multi level marketers have transferred the same not-so-professional strategies to social media. All they do is pitch every one by “throwing everything at the wall and hoping that something sticks.”
Most other types of businesses make the same mistake; not identifying a suitable input necessary with well thought out processes and systems that can operate even when humans are not involved. So if the main person gets sick or encounters an emergency, operations will shut down immediately; just an over-glorified and undercompensated after 9-5 job.
If your marketing needs your attention constantly in order to continue filling the pipeline, it cannot be working competitively in these times. Back in the days, the only call-to-action on commercials was the phone number which meant someone had to pick up the phone on the other end. If they don’t pick up, you’ve lost money.
When that happens enough time, it can take your business out effectively becoming the 95% in 5 years failure stat member. Since then, marketing has evolved to not involve the need of humans to receive these messages.
Back in 1998, there were the famous 900 numbers all over television commercials. Not only did these numbers actually charge the callers a fee that shares royalties with the business on the other end, the phone was also picked up by automated answering machines.
So the more your marketing involves humans, the higher the cost of marketing will be because of the cost of human resources and time. Systems can still involve human time but the idea is to minimize that particular variable in your marketing therefore reducing or offsetting marketing cost dramatically.
The same way we have inputs, central processing units (CPU) and outputs as the three basic parts of a personal computer, your marketing operation must identify the inputs, processes and outputs. A business can no longer just be a business; it must be a business “system”. And that means, you are able to take a walk without a risk of the business shutting down.
There are multi-layers of systems in any given business and one of them is obviously the marketing system. To further break this down, I want to borrow some ideas for what I learned in Project Management Professional (PMP®). Surprise… surprise… They use similar concepts to break down projects.
Projects have multiple processes which are subsets of systems. Each process has its own inputs, tools and techniques (TT) and outputs. For short, you might encounter ITTO if you are into project management. The reality is that each campaign is like a project especially if it has an end date or predetermined and desired end results.
Back in the days, you might just worry about the input and the output as a business owner while the process in-between them is handled by a marketing agency. But in this digital era, any individual with a Facebook or Google account has access to millions of target audience.
In many ways, marketing agencies are still very useful. In fact, you can inquire more at www.myEmpirePRO.com.services about our marketing agency services. But the point is that the business owners are much more involved in the middle component of a marketing system; the processes, at least at a consulting and services level.
We will get into more detail of the different components of a marketing system and campaign throughout the rest of this book. My focus right now is just to highlight the importance of executing the marketing campaign of a business, product or service like a system.
What it does is that it removes guess-work and allows you to replicate more of what’s working and delete whatever is not working. You will be able to scale your business without and simultaneously eliminate human error in that process.
There are two metrics that we will elaborate on later namely; ACV and LCV. They stand for Average Customer Value and Lifetime Customer Value respectively. These are the KPI (Key Performance Indicators) that allow you to test offers in different types of ways.
Do you know the average or lifetime customer value of your business? If you do not know this number, you can’t scale the business because it’s directly an indication that you don’t even know your business.
It’s very simple. Over a period of time, divide your total revenue by the number of customers; the product is your average customer value. Lifetime is simply the same number over the lifetime of your business.
When you don’t have systems that systemically make offers in a particular sequence based on a customer journey into and through your offers, you can’t properly measure these numbers. And the last thing you want to try is to manually measure and calculate these important numbers. You will lose track.
Here are some examples of systems that allow you to measure your ACV and LCV so that you can know when and how much to invest in marketing campaigns.
Funded Proposal - Anytime you have an offer, product or service for the marketplace, think of it as a proposal. You are proposing a solution where the buyer has the agency to decide to buy or not.
An average business does not have a choice of entering a profitable zone until 5 years after launch. But what if you can create and position offers that will fund your marketing campaigns upfront?
I am not talking about your main offer or core product. When you implement a funded proposal in your business, all the sales of your core product becomes pure profit. There is a self-liquidating or tripwire offer that funds your marketing campaigns and most especially, customer list-building. Once you have these customers in your funnel, it’s easier to sell your main core product to them.
Hopefully, you have the skills to orchestrate a sequence of offers that naturally ascends your customers through your sales funnel.
Sales Funnels - What is a sales funnel? Simply put, it’s the journey that you have designed for your customers to go from discovering your business to sales conversion. More often than none, one sale conversion is not enough to make your business profitable.
Like I said earlier, if your business falls within the range of an average business, you won’t be in profit for 5 years or never. By designing a sales funnel that ensures profit upfront and funding your marketing campaign as soon as possible, your business will legally print money.
If you are able to make $1.10 every time you spend a dollar in any given year, you are effectively printing money. How would you like it if you are able to spend $22,787.30 and generate a revenue of 49,059.80 all in less than 3 years. That’s a 60+% return on investment (ROi).
All of that happened and even more so during the covid pandemic. It dramatically recession-proofs your business. By the way, that’s a true story and you can replicate that result especially when you understand the power of upsell funnels.
Upsell Funnels - Have you ever been asked “would you want fries with that?” after buying something off McDonald’s basic entry menu? (It’s no longer called the dollar menu right? Thanks to inflation).
What about “would you like 2 apple pies for $1.99?” That is a real example of an upsell offer. With digital marketing, you can create and position offers after a first offer purchase (the tripwire offer) has been initiated.
In addition to that, you can offer a downsell to customers that says no to an offer if the reason for declining is likely cost. For example, you made an offer of $4,997 inside an upsell sales funnel, and your customer clicks “no thanks”.
As soon as they click on that, they can be redirected to an offer with a little less feature at the price of $2,497. Sometimes, you can also offer a payment plan. By doing this, you can secure a sale and additional revenue that would otherwise not have happened if you are presenting to total strangers.
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Inside of the system are processes such as email marketing, autoresponders, audience segmentation, customer engagement, audience growth, and more to boost your online sales.
Typically, digital marketers use multiple tools to execute all these different techniques. In fact, there are more than enough techniques and if you are not careful, that’s a negative thing. It can be hard to stay focused.
Once you get the ball rolling and you fully understand this as a system, one tool can execute everything. Sometimes, you might have different aspects of your business with their own sales processes. But ideally, it’s better to keep all your processes in one system especially if you are new to digital marketing.
The shiny ball syndrome is real and distractions are extremely costly. I know because I am speaking from experience. There are many different types of systems implementable for digital marketing. But the best ones for what should be obvious to you after the next chapter starts with list building; audience growth.
If you have to spend money for every unit of discovery, your business will likely go broke. The reason why all the best businesses you know today create smartphone apps to engage you and offer rewards is to build and engage their audience on a regular basis. The idea is to create and boost for more sales.
So in the next chapter, we are going to dive into list building. Have you ever heard the saying “the money is in ‘the list’?” I’ve heard some people try to dumb this down but they are also usually trying to sell something else. List building as the front end of your sales funnel system is undefeatable and we will be talking about it.
What is a system without at least an input? Useless right? The sales funnel as a system is a beautiful beast but without making sure that you are feeding the beast, it’s all pointless. In addition to that, we will be talking about quality vs quantity. We will also talk about all the different forms of list-building and how it has evolved right before my very own eyes since 2009.
There have been many moments over the years when I derailed from this ideology. Yes I agree. It’s still an ideology but yielding away from it has cost me millions in losses. Don’t make the same mistake.
There is a space from a mindset standpoint that it might seem like you can get quicker results starting your sales funnel system with asking for money from strangers. Remember people need to feel like they know, like and trust you.
Do you remember the KLT factor and brand equity? How much more when you are able to fund your marketing campaigns simultaneously on the front end?
And what if the output of your sales funnel system are customers who can’t wait to buy more from you? Then your output becomes a recursive input for your system making it faster to scale your business. They can also buy from partners though you.
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In this video, we are adding some context to an answer we gave to Queen some few weeks back. Be sure to check out that video.
It’s called “Unwanted Separation? Use THESE 5 Tips!” It was also a response to an original video called “Ignoring Your Spouse During Separation 💔”
Here is her response to that video.
“"Thank you Lola and Ola. I am grateful for you guys. You have opened a new perspective to me. I believe I should work on myself now moving forward. The period of sorrow and grief is coming to an end.
About the question if I am a selfish person, the answer is no. I have always given people my time, love and affection. I’d rather love others first.
I don’t know how to only focus on me. It’s not healthy. I’d rather give to those who need me. I never put myself first but look for the good of those around me.
Hence I helped hubby become who he is today. Now that he’s left I don’t understand what I did wrong to be honest.
We spoke a few days ago and he wanted to know what I have been up to. I don’t know why he suddenly is interested to know about my whereabouts but he will not disclose what he’s doing or how he feels. Which I find strange that he’s obsessed with knowing what I am about.
I think I need to be more attractive and work on myself more like you mentioned. I will revive my passions and allow time to heal like they say.
For now I will focus on what makes me happy and keep me focused. I believe he’s still my husband. I am also going to download your free book now." ~ Queen
So here we go. To add some context to Queen’s comment, we have created 5 keys to rekindling attraction from a seduction standpoint during a separation.
Let’s get into it.
As always, this is easier said than done. But it’s a simple concept. What makes it complex is the complex human mind.
When you experience rejection at any level, it breeds obsession and anxiety.
But when you are able to garner some self-control and back off just a little bit, you can successfully transfer that obsession and anxiety to the other party.
It also depends on how much damage may have occurred during the break down of the relationship.
If your separated spouse is not the exception minority with no emotional blood flowing in their vein, this works 100% of the time.
So it’s pretty normal for the obsession to flip to the other side when you take time to back off and allow nature to take its course.
If your partner needs space, things are bad already and you probably need more space than you realize.
So, I want you to allow the obsession and the anxiety to flip from you to your partner naturally and organically. There are gurus out there teaching people to fake it.
You can’t afford to fake this stuff because that would be a lie and that would typically mean you have to keep lying to cover up lies. It’s not worth it because it’s too much energy trying to keep up with it.
It needs to be organic and this awareness right here will make it a little hard.
But the way to mitigate that is to really take this rare advantage of time apart to build yourself in every way you can think of; physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Leave very little room to sit around and allow your mind to wander around about things you can’t control such as sorrow and grief.
If you can do it, that’s obviously time spent away from obsessing over your estranged partner and that much time for them to start wondering about what you are up to.
That’s literally a form of attraction.
It’s organic and natural and proof that you can potentially rekindle attraction in a healthy way so that you can embrace it when you are ready.
As “Queen” just acknowledged, you can’t afford to pour love into others from an empty cup; it will only drain your energy.
Yes we advocate for focusing on “giving” in a healthy relationship and not the falsehood of the “give and take” ideology that a bunch of selfish people are running around with on social media.
But please, do not take us out of context. You simply cannot give what you don’t already have.
We get this question all the time… “You are telling us to just GIVE but what if we are giving so much that the other person is not reciprocating?”
Good question.
But there is no better way to tell me that you are not giving anything to yourself. You are emptying out yourself to your partner.
That’s the only way you can have time to notice that they don’t reciprocate but you are not necessarily wrong; just a thought to consider.
And worse, you are setting them up with false metrics of expectations that are based purely on your disappointed emotions.
You can’t win together like that. You might win alone and effectively destroy the relationship. But let’s be guided.
When you can demonstrate the ability to take care of yourself, there is almost nothing sexier than that when it comes to rekindling attraction again.
And of course, they naturally can’t wait to get on your good side.
Once you’ve managed to organically flip that obsession and anxiety over to the other side, do not prematurely engage.
Sure it’s attractive but it needs to be tested with time and persistence which must be demonstrated on all sides.
Don’t play games with this if you haven’t gone through an outright rejection from your spouse. That will make it fake, manipulative and it can backfire badly.
But in the case of what “Queen” described, she needs to disconnect as much as possible from wondering what she did wrong and why he is suddenly obsessed.
The bottom line is that he is obsessed because that’s attraction at play but more importantly, how she responds to it needs to showcase indifference.
What that means is that how you feel is neither here nor there. You are okay with whatever the outcome is and you will take your time because you are busy learning how to take care of yourself.
It might drive one or both of you wild.
But the attraction needs to be tested for strength because there is a real reason why a separation became reality in the first place.
It doesn’t matter if you are “the man” or “the woman”. The same attraction principle is applicable if you are feeling the emotions of rejection.
You can re-engage your seduction power and redirect the course.
What if you lost your partner forever? Yea. What if? If you can’t handle that reality in your mind right now, it’s probably showing as needy behavior on the surface.
That’s not sexy.
It’s like no wonder they are running away from that.
The moment they can see that you are capable of loving yourself adequately, they will always regret a decision of not working on your relationship.
That self-love will attract a better companionship to you with or without your spouse; it’s non-negotiable.
And again, we are not talking to selfish people. Self-love as a religious talking point and ideology can also destroy you and everything you care about.
We are speaking from experience.
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