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Sep 30, 2022

CHAPTER 5 The List - So in April, 2009, I was fresh out of the real estate crash and I was attempting different things.  I built an online mall.  I discovered affiliate marketing for the first time. And I tried to use the concept to invent a cashback mall.  Today, you can see many cash back opportunities with credit cards, retail reward programs attached to different websites.





Anyway, I paid a couple of hundred dollars for a home study course and I learned about the Google Ads platform for the first time.  Back then and up till not too long ago, it was called Google Adwords. 

The concept was simple.  All I had to do was find a product on an affiliate network that paid a commission for generating sales.  In order to generate sales, all I had to do was give my special trackable link to a prospect and I would earn a commission if a sale was generated as a result of clicking my trackable link.

In my mind at that moment, I had hit a jackpot.  So I searched through the product affiliate network and found an e-book on generating real estate fortunes.  I could relate because the previous few years before that… that was my life; real estate.

I decided  to set up my first Good Adwords campaign and in about 5 minutes, Google had charged my credit card for $700.  A $47 sales was generated.  I panicked and I turned the damn campaign off immediately. 

So let’s do the math. $700 minus $47 is equal to $653 in net loss.  But also, I generated the million dollar lesson that I am about to share with you right now.  I’ve used it so many times since then as a guide whenever I'm setting up any type of campaign, especially with digital marketing.

In the last chapter, we discussed “the system”, input, tools, techniques, processes and outputs. We talked about how important it is build a campaign in a self-sustainable way so that you do not have to be a slave to making it work.

To a large extent, humans are still needed to test, run and scale successful digital marketing campaigns.  But ideally, you want to set it up in a way that humans are only needed for the set up, and data analysis for scaling growth.

And with “humans in this respect, I am not talking about the human prospects or audience to the campaign.  I am talking about the digital marketer or the entrepreneur seeking to build the audience and subsequently sales generation for a business.

We discussed the fact that many tools are available in the marketplace for digital marketing.  In fact, the majority of them will be described as systems.  And frankly, they are all systems in their own right as long as an input, a process and an output are identifiable.  

All processes can in fact be described as a system. But I need you to understand that each of your digital marketing campaigns or projects is a standalone system that involves multiple processes hopefully with trackable and measurable inputs and outputs.

This is how to turn a complex process into super simple and easy to understand and implementable execution.  If I come to you and ask you to break down a brand awareness campaign for a new version of the Toyota Highlander on the Meta/Facebook Advertising platform, you can now draw a plan on a piece of paper in effort to understand what the inputs and the outputs would be.  

What resources are available and what are the desired outcomes of the campaign?  It’s a mindset shift.  In addition to that, you will increase the chances of better outputs from the campaign just for having a plan.  

But there is a major problem.  The gentleman who was the actual instructor of the Google Adwords home study course actually described different types of campaigns.  

He talked about the first one which is a sales generation campaign.  It involved setting up a campaign that landed on a sales presentation page as soon as you clicked the ad in the search engine results page (THE SERP).  

In digital marketing, there is something called “the bounce”.  

What is the bounce?  

A bounce happens when a user clicks  a marketing message to land into your website but the landing page is the only page they viewed.  In real life, they typically don't like what they see and they click the ‘BACK’ button to go back to the SERP.

So when you set up a campaign with traffic or clicks as the objective, a bounce means you just lost money equivalent to the cost of that one click.  The ultimate objective is to create sales right?  What are the chances that a sale will be generated from any given click on your ad?

From decade-long experience, it’s 10% or less no matter how good your sales copy is.

So how did I end up with a $700 bill and a $47 sale which entitled me to only 50% commission ($23.50) by the way?  I generated tons of clicks and the majority of them turned out to be a bounce for many possible reasons.  Each one of the clicks cost me a certain amount of money.

For the sake of simplicity, let’s assume that each click cost me $1.07.  So that means (700 divided by $1.07) 654 clicks on the ad generated that $700 bill.  After 5 minutes, only one sale was generated.  That would be one sale divided by 654 clicks and then multiplied by 100%.  That’s equal to 0.15% sales per click rate.

At that rate, how long will it take to break even if I ever do?  As you can see, I am probably better off building a business the traditional route.

The second type of campaign that the instructor shared in the home study course was a list building campaign.  In this type of campaign, the ultimate objective is no longer sales.  Okay.  It is sales for the business but not just “sales”.  The ultimate objective is maximizing profits.

As a newbie in digital marketing, I was super excited about the  idea of working from home or from the beach with a laptop generating money on demand.  Who doesn’t want that?  So my natural instinct was to choose the clicks generation campaign objective camouflaged as sales objective.  At the back of my mind, a lot of clicks would turn to sales since they had interest.

I went ahead and set up a clicks or traffic generation campaign without thinking things all the way through and properly.  It was a short sighted strategy and it burnt me badly.  Let me explain.

In that example that I gave earlier, there were (654 minus 1 sale) 653 prospects that I paid actual money to attract to my landing page with the sales presentation right?  Those people had actual interest as evident by their action.  They actually clicked the ad.

But if I wanted to attract them again, I would have to spend another $700 and there is no guarantee that I would get them to buy the product.  In fact, if the number worked out the way it did before, I would now be ($1,400 minus $47) $1,353 in the hole; net loss.  It’s getting worse right?  

Everytime, I want to sell a product to these people that I’ve identified as having interest, I would have to spend money and potentially lose more money.  This is not turning out to be a profitable venture so far right?

From the previous chapters, you learned that 85% of people make buying decisions based on emotions and justify with logic later.  You also learned that they are more likely to buy from you when they feel like they know, like and trust you.  Do you still remember the KLT factor and brand equity?  So we know that the fewer the exposure to your brand is, the more unlikely it is for the prospect to buy.

With list building as the objective of a front end digital marketing campaign, you are now able to remarket to prospects with established interests without spending more money.  As a business owner, of course and hopefully you understand the principles of sowing in order to reap.  You are going to have to spend money to make money.

But it’s obviously better if you can spend money one time to attract targeted prospects with a certain level of interest rather than for every single time you need to attract them to your website.  If the main objective on the front end is to capture their contact information into a list, you can then contact them more times with your paid offer after the initial contact.

Let me ask you a question.  Which action do you think would be easier to get your website user to take on their first encounter with you?  Is it easier to get them to pull out their credit card to buy a product or is it easier to get them to give out their contact information in order to receive a free sample or additional information on a solution they are already interested in?  

Your guess is as good as mine.  It’s probably easier to get them to spend no money right? ….especially if they don’t feel like they know, like or trust you yet. Since you are capturing contact information, you are able to put a lot of focus on building that KLT factor or brand equity until they feel comfortable to buy; the ultimate goal.

It’s also better like this because of the magnitude of the impact you are leaving on your prospects long before they decided to do business with you and long after.  They are even more inclined to refer more business to you.  You are maximizing the output of your marketing input and resources simply for understanding the power of list building as a front end digital marketing campaign objective.

Think of it as a follow-up strategy in a traditional business model.  Follow up is another form of marketing except that it will now cost you almost nothing and a lot less effort to convert a prospect to a customer.  This will massively offset your marketing cost.

There are many more benefits to list building as core digital marketing strategy but let me leave you with these two benefits.  

Sales on Demand - When you diligently build a list of prospects, you can send a quick email just like that and have your mortgage for the month paid.

Community Building - In addition to the heightened need to build brand equity due to competition, it’s also important to build a community around your business.  List building makes it super simple to drive prospects into a discussion group where you can even get better opportunities to develop new ideas into more products.

The first step to list building is to find or create a free and valuable offer.  This book is an example of a free offer that we use to generate leads and build our list.  As we were marketing this book to 17 million people to download for free, this comment was left on one of the ads.

“Just Think...who would PAY for an advert and THEN give you somthing for FREE...Scammers are clever people.....”

And this was my reply….

“False. People who created value, like a book, that you probably will never create and use it to generate leads for potentially more business... aka... opportunity to give more value. Why are you triggered by the idea of people making money? You should see a therapist. The book is free and that's that. Drink some water.”    

Now that was a little harsh for a reply.  I guess that person caught me on a good day because we generally delete negative comments.  It’s just pointless to reply to people who have made up their mind not to do business with you.  But you get the gist.

It might be a product sample that you are offering your target audience.  It’s free and they get to have a taste of enjoying your product or services.  You might have seen examples of products being offered in exchange for just the cost of shipping.  

Surprise… surprise.  When you pay for the shipping and handling, your contact information which includes your physical shipping address is also captured all legally.  That’s how you print money with digital marketing.

Like I said, I use the same method to build my business over the years.  But I have to be 100% honest with you.  I’ve had moments of non-profitable greed when I attempted to sell to strangers without getting to know them and more importantly getting them to know me; brand equity.

That behavior has cost me millions of dollars in net loss.  When you are in a desperate place, it’s easy to fall back on natural “common sense based” instincts which assume that a good offer is good enough.  A good offer  is absolutely a necessity.  But so is timing for your prospect and audience.  It’s not always the right time for your prospect but you must set up and position your digital marketing campaigns in a way that the timing is always right for your campaigns to sell to a prospect who is ready to buy.

Go to your favorite social media platform and click on one of the ads you see.  They typically have “sponsored” as a label next to them.  What that means is that someone is paying money to the platform to target you with an offer.

Click on about 10 ads and observe how they attempt to capture your contact information; email, phone number, physical address etc.  Also, pay attention to what type of free offer they are exchanging for it. Make sure it’s not a brand that you’ve seen before because that most likely wouldn’t be a first time or front end exposure ad.  It’s probably a remarketing campaign.

Speaking of remarketing campaigns,  in recent years, you can capture people into ad platform custom audiences once they take certain actions or engage with your ad.  Although, I wouldn’t count on just that as a form of list building but it’s doable if your marketing budget is big enough for that type of risk.  

However if you lose that ad account which can happen, you might lose the opportunity to be able to market to the audiences you build in it.  That’s very costly.     

By the way, we use the same system I mentioned in the last chapter for list building and you can check it out at The ultimate goal here is not just to make sales but to maximize profits. Some of the easiest sales you will make will be from existing customers.

It just makes sense because if they received value from doing business with you in the past, they will naturally be inclined to do more business.  Having a third-party tool and system to maintain your list and community outside of the ad platform is literally freedom.

Your ad platform custom audiences (as we will cover later), social media fans and followers are not as powerful as a list that you nurture and maintain independently.  And that’s why I recommend a third party tool that has its own embeddable webform to capture the contact information, marketing automation feature to engage and convert prospects into customers, clients and deals.  

I know that I mentioned earlier that one tool can handle so much more than one process.  But it is important to separate features on the advertising platform from your list building system as a form of security and risk mitigation.  You don’t want to have all your fruits in one basket.

So it is not necessarily smart to leave all the processes from lead to sales generation on one platform.  Platforms do collapse.  Account profiles can also be banned, shadow banned and deleted. 

In the next section of Digital Marketing Certified , we are going to dive into performance and how to track  and monitor it.  There are way too many businesses that have no ways of ensuring growth and quality in the processes.  At the end of the day, it's a competitive market place.

Your prospects will spend that money with or without  you selling to them.  Some other smarter or wiser, direct or indirect competitor will collect that money from them.  It might as well be you right?  

To ensure growth from quarter to quarter, you must measure your digital marketing performance across a few dimensions. 

Sep 24, 2022

Welcome back to  As usual, we’ve received your messages either in the comment area or to




And we are happy to continue to share tips from our 18+ years experience in this game of marriage and relationships.


Today, we are responding to 3 different comments and messages. And the first one says…


“Going through this right now. We still do things at home together, stop going out due to the separation…”


And here is the second one… 


“I have all the 5 signs that show a wife's disrespect to her husband. Now I'm wondering how to deal with those wives with these signs.”


This was actually a comment response to a video we did a while back that has 20,000+ views on it.  


Just search “5 Signs Your Wife DOESN’T RESPECT YOU LOLA and OLA” on Youtube after watching this.  It comes right up.


Here is a quick recap of the 5 signs of a disrespectful wife that was mentioned in that video: 


1 - She utters rude remarks

2 - She gives you the silent treatment

3 - She doesn't sought after your advice and opinion

4 - She seems to honor other people's advices and opinions more

5 - She doesn't defend you when necessary


And then there was this comment…


“My wife started to disrespect me in secret back in 2022.  She started lying and twerking on TikTok, commenting on guys' pictures and videos etc.  


I just found this out this year after a big argument and I made one just to check and I couldn't believe that I was watching my wife.  


So I made her delete TikTok and I got on her Facebook and almost the same stuff. But when I asked her to delete it, she blocked me and told me I need to act my age. 


And that people onTikTok don't mean anything.  


I said of course they do if you post this kinda’ content, then liking their comments when honestly they are calling you a 304 and me a fool.”


As usual, we have consolidated the answer into 5 tips to help you deal with a disrespectful wife even in the middle of a separation.


Let’s get into it.

Tip Number 5

OLA - Focus on Rebuilding Friendship


This is probably not the time to start buying flowers and begging her to work on the relationship.  I want you to focus on being comfortable with each other even if it  doesn’t involve romance.


The fear that will probably creep through you is this.  “What if she actually moves on?”


The question is moving on to what?  After all, you need a confidence that showcases that you are the best option for her anyway.


Just trust the process and let go of everything you believed about marriage except friendship for now.  


The strength of the friendship you build in this period has no choice but to spread to everything else way better than obsession and attachments could.


It’s always good to wait for the decision maker of the present status to decide to change that decision.  It’s even better when you emotionally attract them to do so.  


Tip Number 4

LOLA - Signs Are Symptoms


People can argue this with me… but when women go on social media to twerk, it’s a sign of insecurity and low self esteem.


She is most likely crazing unhealthy attention and it’s to do so when she doesn’t value what she has at home.


The point is that there are deeper issues at play and what you are seeing as signs are ordinary symptoms.


Guess what happens when you treat symptoms. It will give you a fake sense of relief but it’s coming back.


And when it comes back, the symptoms are going to be worse because the disease never left. It might even be cancerous and spread to other areas that weren't previously infected.


So don’t focus too much on the symptoms or signs.  A root cause analysis is needed.


Tip Number 3

OLA - You Need Some Space


Let me guess.  I know what you are thinking.


You are thinking that married couples, space and distance don’t go together.  But that’s actually not how attraction works.


One of the signs of low levels of attraction is disrespect and in Nigeria slangs we can also call that “see finish”.


When a relationship is no longer exciting for whatever reasons, it’s easy to find laying around convenient reasons to be disrespectful.


Put it like this.  A woman who is in love with you will find it hard to be disrespectful even if there are good excuses… I’m not sure if there is a good excuse.


Distance makes the heart fonder.  It may be as simple as taking each other for granted for being around too much.


You need space.  If you are not careful, she will be asking you for space very soon.


Tip Number 2

LOLA - Say it Once & Let it Go


When you say what you have to say to address a disrespect, make sure you mean it.


A sign that you don’t really mean it or believe it is when you have to repeat yourself.


If a disrespectful wife is not responding to your request after saying it more than 2 times, there is a chance that form of communication is not working.


There is also a chance that there are deeper issues that you will likely not find out because you are busy talking too much.


Your rare ability to let it go after saying what you have to say no more than 2 times demonstrates self confidence, self worth, self respect and more.


Speaking of self respect…


Tip Number 1

OLA - Focus on Self-Respect

As we were preparing for this episode, a further elaboration came through the comment section to one of the earlier comments.


And I quote…


“I know she has narcissistic tendencies cause we'll be fine now… as long as I don't bring it up… if I do… she say things like may we should be apart if I don't trust her or threaten not to talk to me if I bring it up


She ignores me basically.  We lost our apartment and when she left, she took the kids and my car.  I just moved back to South Carolina and started working there.


But we haven't had sex in a month.  She said she is not in the mood because of the situation we are in.


We will be fine for a week or two, then she'll go run behind people who only wanna talk to her because she's driving around in a 2021 Charger and kinda’ ignore me.


Then my trust issues come into play and she starts threatening to leave me again or she'll say something to damage my ego more than it already is.


I got her to take down the other Facebook page and the one she had pictures of me on but she still blocked me because I’d be starting with people on her page because someone liked or commented on her picture or post.


I'm feeling better now though.  I want my wife back… the girl I married 4 years ago and got 4 kids with and been with for 12 years.”


You see.  There is so much going on in that comment that points towards lack of self-respect.  There are just some things that you will never have time for when you have adequate self-respect.


At least, you will be willing to let a disrespectful wife go until she figures out where her priorities lie if she is confused about that.


But I get it.  It’s easier said than done.  


Nonetheless, you have to understand that your wife is only capable of mimicking and matching the level of respect you have for yourself.


We are speaking from experience.  


We share our own story inside the book "GET MY MARRIAGE BACK" which  you can download for free at


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Sep 23, 2022

CHAPTER 5 The System - I have to go back to 1997 to make this make sense.  It looked like I was going to be at home for a while before heading to some kind of higher education, so I decided to take a 3 months introductory course in computers.




The first thing I learned that continues to show up for the next 25 years for me…  What was it? It was input, CPU (central processing unit) and output;  the three basic parts of a personal computer.  Since then there have been multiple versions of that.

But what it did was allow me to understand at a fundamental level what value a computer brings to our lives from a system stand point.  And I continue to believe in every aspect of life that the best part about humans is the ability to build systems that work even when we can’t.

A system is a set of parts or principles that work together to create a desired outcome.  The outcome can actually be a part of the system or a recursive input into the system to create an even better outcome or output.

And Like I said, the first thing I learn about computers is its 3 basic parts namely input devices such as the keyboard, the CPU which contains the memory for storage and processes information coming through the input devices and lastly, the output devices such as the monitor to see visuals of the work being performed by the computer or to store information on external storage.

The external storage device that was popular back in 1997 was a floppy disk.  While you can use it to store information digitally as an output from the CPU, it is often inserted back as input into the CPU for additional, better and improved output.

In this chapter, we are going to explore the concept of systems and how it applies at micro and macro levels when it comes to digital marketing.   

But in the previous chapter, we talked about “The Connection” in so many dimensions.  We talked about frame of reference.  It’s a concept that we will revisit again because this whole thing is about the customer journey.  And your ability to take them on an experience is a big determining factor in the level of success that you are able to create.

As I said in the last chapter, many businesses go back and forth between futuristic marketing and old school media that doesn’t work anymore such as newspapers and yellow books ads.  Remember, this is about “The Persons”, the people and catering to your identified audience.

95% of businesses are already going to fail within their first five years.  Feel free to attribute that terrible result to a lack of connection between “The Value” and “The Persons”.  It just makes sense right?  

We covered the idea of pre-framing the mind of your prospect so that the natural order of action is to create an order; buy your offer.  Hopefully now, you understand that people need to “feel” like they know, like and trust you as part of the pre-framing.  And getting people to convert to customers, clients, deals and partners start to feel almost effortless.

Very importantly, we covered a tool that helps us create a spider web of these agents and connections all over the world wide web.  Do you recall the content management system?  The CMS right?  My favorite CMS, Wordpress, controls 40% of the CMS market share.

That is a good thing because of the ever evolving nature of everything digital.  So like typical software, there are constant and seamless updates of bells and whistles to make your customers’ experiences super-cutting edge.  In this era, you as a business owner or digital marketer cannot afford to operate on stale systems.

With that being said, let’s get into systems when it comes to digital marketing and digital based businesses.  You guessed it right.  It starts with an input.

In 2009, I got introduced to the world of multilevel marketing and direct sales.  The truth is that it wasn’t just about finding customers.  In fact, the majority of the income came from building a team.  Being a self-motivated person that I’ve always been, I got to work right away, and I recruited my brother into my downline.

The idea behind the  business model leverages people's immediate circle of influence to first… sell the business opportunity to and then second, sell them products if they are not interested in building the business.

My brother figured out quickly that the main input into the business model was people.  The owners of these multilevel marketing businesses such as Amway, Herbalife, TransAmerica, Primerica etc. simply need people.  

But there is a problem.  Sure, we can probably go through the contacts of our smart phones and find 100 people.  The issue is that we usually haven’t connected with these people in a long time.  So even though they are people, they are not necessarily suitable inputs for the business model.  Hence many of the reps get frustrated until they quit the business.

Also, we are talking about a business model that requires face-to-face sales skills.  While a lot of the leaders and trainers in that industry continue to tell their teammates that sales is not involved, nothing could be further from the truth.  The reality is that money is expected to exchange hands with an opportunity; a business opportunity or at least a product.  

So even the second part of this business system is flawed with mostly non-capable business owners and processes that aren't updated for the digital era.  No arguments.  If it’s working for you, keep doing what you are doing because it works right?

In the last few years, many multi level marketers have transferred the same not-so-professional strategies to social media.  All they do is pitch every one by “throwing everything at the wall and hoping that something sticks.” 

Most other types of businesses make the same mistake; not identifying a suitable input necessary with well thought out processes and systems that can operate even when humans are not involved.  So if the main person gets sick or encounters an emergency, operations will shut down immediately; just an over-glorified and undercompensated after 9-5 job. 

If your marketing needs your attention constantly in order to continue filling the pipeline, it cannot be working competitively in these times.  Back in the days, the only call-to-action on commercials was the phone number which meant someone had to pick up the phone on the other end.  If they don’t pick up, you’ve lost money.

When that happens enough time, it can take your business out effectively becoming the 95% in 5 years failure stat member.  Since then, marketing has evolved to not involve the need of humans to receive these messages.

Back in 1998, there were the famous 900 numbers all over television commercials.  Not only did these numbers actually charge the callers a fee that shares royalties with the business on the other end, the phone was also picked up by automated answering machines.

So the more your marketing involves humans, the higher the cost of marketing will be because of the cost of human resources and time.  Systems can still involve human time but the idea is to minimize that particular variable in your marketing therefore reducing or offsetting marketing cost dramatically.

The same way we have inputs, central processing units (CPU) and outputs as the three basic parts of a personal computer, your marketing operation must identify the inputs, processes and outputs.  A business can no longer just be a business; it must be a business “system”. And that means, you are able to take a walk without a risk of the business shutting down.  

There are multi-layers of systems in any given business and one of them is obviously the marketing system.  To further break this down, I want to borrow some ideas for what I learned in Project Management Professional (PMP®).  Surprise… surprise… They use similar concepts to break down projects.

Projects have multiple processes which are subsets of systems.  Each process has its own inputs, tools and techniques (TT) and outputs.  For short, you might encounter ITTO if you are into project management.  The reality is that each campaign is like a  project especially if it has an end date or predetermined and desired end results.

Back in the days, you might just worry about the input and the output as a business owner while the process in-between them is handled by a marketing agency.  But in this digital era, any individual with a Facebook or Google account has access to millions of target audience.  

In many ways, marketing agencies are still very  useful.  In fact, you can inquire more at  about our marketing agency services.  But the point is that the business owners are much more involved in the middle component of a marketing system; the processes, at least at a consulting and services level.

We will get into more detail of the different components of a marketing system and campaign throughout the rest of this book.  My focus right now is just to highlight the importance of executing the marketing campaign of a business, product or service like a system.

What it does is that it removes guess-work and allows you to replicate more of what’s working and delete whatever is not working.  You will be able to scale your business without and simultaneously eliminate human error in that process.

There are two metrics that we will elaborate on later namely; ACV and LCV.  They stand for Average Customer Value and Lifetime Customer Value respectively.  These are the KPI (Key Performance Indicators) that allow you to test offers in different  types of ways.  

Do you know the average or lifetime customer value of your business?  If you do not know this number, you can’t scale the business because it’s directly an indication that you don’t even know your business.

It’s very simple.  Over a period of time, divide your total revenue by the number of customers; the product is your average customer value.  Lifetime is simply the same number over the lifetime of your business.

When you don’t have systems that systemically make offers in a particular sequence based on a customer journey into and through your offers, you can’t properly measure these numbers.  And the last thing you want to try is to manually measure and calculate these important numbers. You will lose track.

Here are some examples of systems that allow you to measure your ACV and LCV so that you can know when and how much to invest in marketing  campaigns.

Funded Proposal - Anytime you have an offer, product or service for the marketplace, think of it as a proposal.  You are proposing a solution where the buyer has the agency to decide to buy or not.

An average business does not have a choice of entering a profitable zone until 5 years after launch.  But what if you can create and position offers that will fund your marketing campaigns upfront?

I am not talking about your main offer or core product.  When you implement a funded proposal in your business, all the sales of your core product becomes pure profit.  There is a self-liquidating or tripwire offer that funds your marketing campaigns and most especially, customer list-building.  Once you have these customers in your funnel, it’s easier to sell your main core product to them.

Hopefully, you have the skills to orchestrate a sequence of offers that naturally ascends your customers through your sales funnel.   

Sales Funnels - What is a sales funnel?  Simply put, it’s the journey that you have designed for your customers to go from discovering your business to sales conversion. More often than none, one sale conversion is not enough to make your business profitable.

Like I said earlier, if your business falls within the range of an average business, you won’t be in profit for 5 years or never.  By designing a sales funnel that ensures profit upfront and funding your marketing campaign as soon as possible, your business will legally print money.

If you are able to make $1.10 every time you spend a dollar in any given year, you are effectively printing money.   How would you like it if you are able to spend $22,787.30 and generate a revenue of 49,059.80 all in less than 3 years. That’s a 60+% return on investment (ROi).

All of that happened and even more so during the covid pandemic.  It dramatically recession-proofs your business.  By the way, that’s a true story and you can replicate that result especially when you understand the power of upsell funnels.  

Upsell Funnels - Have you ever been asked “would you want fries with that?” after buying something off McDonald’s basic entry menu?  (It’s no longer called the dollar menu right? Thanks to inflation).  

What about “would you like 2 apple pies for $1.99?”  That is a real example of an upsell offer.  With digital marketing, you can create and position offers after a first offer purchase (the tripwire offer) has been initiated.

In addition to that, you can offer a downsell to customers that says no to an offer if the reason for declining is likely cost.  For example, you made an offer of $4,997 inside an upsell sales funnel, and your customer clicks “no thanks”.  

As soon as they click on that, they can be redirected to an offer with a little less feature at the price of $2,497.  Sometimes, you can also offer a payment plan.  By doing this, you can secure a sale and additional revenue that would otherwise not have happened if you are presenting to total strangers.

Check out this web-based sales funnel and list-building system if you want a free trial of marketing automation with your digital marketing efforts.  Keep in mind that we are talking about systems. 

Inside of the system are processes such as email marketing, autoresponders, audience segmentation, customer engagement, audience growth, and more to boost your online sales.  

Typically, digital marketers use multiple tools to execute all these different techniques.  In fact, there are more than enough techniques and if you are not careful, that’s a negative thing.  It can be hard to stay focused.

Once you get the ball rolling and you fully understand this as a system, one tool can execute everything.  Sometimes, you might have different aspects of your business with their own sales processes.  But ideally, it’s better to keep all your processes in one system especially if you are new to digital marketing.  

The shiny ball syndrome is real and distractions are extremely costly.  I know because I am speaking from experience.  There are many different types of systems implementable for digital marketing.  But the best ones for what should be obvious to you after the next chapter starts with list building; audience growth.  

If you have to spend money for every unit of discovery, your business will likely go broke.  The reason why all the best businesses you know today create smartphone apps to engage you and offer rewards is to build and engage their audience on a regular basis.  The idea is to create and boost for more sales.

So in the next chapter, we are going to dive into list building.  Have you ever heard the saying “the money is in ‘the list’?”  I’ve heard some people try to dumb this down but they are also usually trying to sell something else.  List building as the front end of your sales funnel system is undefeatable and we will be talking about it.

What is a system without at least an input?  Useless right?  The sales funnel as a system is a beautiful beast but without making sure that you are feeding the beast, it’s all pointless.  In addition to that, we will be talking about quality vs quantity.  We will also talk about all the different forms of list-building and how it has evolved right before my very own eyes since 2009.

There have been many moments over the years when I derailed from this ideology.  Yes I agree.  It’s still an ideology but yielding away from it has cost me millions in losses.  Don’t make the same mistake.

There is a space from a mindset standpoint that it might seem like you can get quicker results starting your sales funnel system with asking for money from strangers.  Remember people need to feel like they know, like and trust you.  

Do you remember the KLT factor and brand equity?  How much more when you are able to fund your marketing campaigns simultaneously on the front end?

And what if the output of your sales funnel system are customers who can’t wait to buy more from you?  Then your output becomes a recursive input for your system making it faster to scale your business.  They can also buy from partners though you.

Sep 17, 2022

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In this video, we are adding some context to an answer we gave to Queen some few weeks back.  Be sure to check out that video.  


It’s called “Unwanted Separation? Use THESE 5 Tips!” It was also a response to an original video called “Ignoring Your Spouse During Separation 💔”


Here is her response to that video.


“"Thank you Lola and Ola. I am grateful for you guys. You have opened a new perspective to me. I believe I should work on myself now moving forward. The period of sorrow and grief is coming to an end. 


About the question if I am a selfish person, the answer is no. I have always given people my time, love and affection. I’d rather love others first. 


I don’t know how to only focus on me. It’s not healthy. I’d rather give to those who need me. I never put myself first but look for the good of those around me. 


Hence I helped hubby become who he is today. Now that he’s left I don’t understand what I did wrong to be honest. 


We spoke a few days ago and he wanted to know what I have been up to. I don’t know why he suddenly is interested to know about my whereabouts but he will not disclose what he’s doing or how he feels. Which I find strange that he’s obsessed with knowing what I am about. 


I think I need to be more attractive and work on myself more like you mentioned. I will revive my passions and allow time to heal like they say. 


For now I will focus on what makes me happy and keep me focused. I believe he’s still my husband. I am also going to download your free book now." ~ Queen

So here we go.  To add some context to Queen’s comment, we have created 5 keys to rekindling attraction from a seduction standpoint during a separation.


Let’s get into it.

Key Number 5

The Art of Obsession


As always, this is easier said than done.  But it’s a simple concept.  What makes it complex is the complex human mind.


When you experience rejection at any level,  it breeds obsession and anxiety.  


But when you are able to garner some self-control and back off just a little bit, you can successfully transfer that obsession and anxiety to the other party.


It also depends on how much damage may have occurred during the break down of the relationship.  


If your separated spouse is not the exception minority with no emotional blood flowing in their vein, this works 100% of the time.


So it’s pretty normal for the obsession to flip to the other side when you take time to back off and allow nature to take its course.


If your partner needs space, things are bad already and you probably need more space than you realize.


Key Number 4

Don't Fake The Flip


So, I want you to allow the obsession and the anxiety to flip from you to your partner naturally and organically.  There are gurus out there teaching people to fake it.


You can’t afford to fake this stuff because that would be a lie and that would typically mean you have to keep lying to cover up lies.  It’s not worth it because it’s too much energy trying to keep up with it.

It needs to be organic and this awareness right here will make it a little hard.  


But the way to mitigate that is to really take this rare advantage of time apart to build yourself in every way you can think of; physically, emotionally and spiritually.


Leave very little room to sit around and allow your mind to wander around about things you can’t control such as sorrow and grief.


If you can do it, that’s obviously time spent away from obsessing over your estranged partner and that much time for them to start wondering about what you are up to.


That’s literally a form of attraction.


It’s organic and natural and proof that you can potentially rekindle attraction in a healthy way so that you can embrace it when you are ready.


Key Number 3

Don't Run An Empty Cup


As “Queen” just acknowledged, you can’t afford to pour love into others from an empty cup; it will only drain your energy.  


Yes we advocate for focusing on “giving” in a healthy relationship and not the falsehood of the “give and take” ideology that a bunch of selfish people are running around with on social media.


But please, do not take us out of context.  You simply cannot give what you don’t already have.  


We get this question all the time… You are telling us to just GIVE but what if we are giving so much that the other person is not reciprocating?”


Good question.  


But there is no better way to tell me that you are not giving anything to yourself.  You are emptying out yourself to your partner.


That’s the only way you can have time to notice that they don’t reciprocate but you are not necessarily wrong; just a thought to consider.


And worse, you are setting them up with false metrics of expectations that are based purely on your disappointed emotions. 


You can’t win together like that. You might win alone and effectively destroy the relationship.  But let’s be guided.


When you can demonstrate the ability to take care of yourself, there is almost nothing sexier than that when it comes to rekindling attraction again.


And of course, they naturally can’t wait to get on your good side.


Key Number 2

Be Indifferent


Once you’ve managed to organically flip that obsession and anxiety over to the other side, do not prematurely engage.


Sure it’s attractive but it needs to be tested with time and persistence which must be demonstrated on all sides.


Don’t play games with this if you haven’t gone through an outright rejection from your spouse.  That will make it fake, manipulative and it can backfire badly.


But in the case of what “Queen” described, she needs to disconnect as much as possible from wondering what she did wrong and why he is suddenly obsessed.


The bottom line is that he is obsessed because that’s attraction at play but more importantly, how she responds to it needs to showcase indifference.


What that means is that how you feel is neither here nor there.  You are okay with whatever the outcome is and you will take your time because you are busy learning how to take care of yourself.


It might drive one or both of you wild.

But the attraction needs to be tested for strength because there is a real reason why a separation became reality in the first place.


It doesn’t matter if you are “the man” or “the woman”.  The same attraction principle is applicable if you are feeling the emotions of rejection.


You can re-engage your seduction power and redirect the course.


Key Number 1

Self Love Is Still key


What if you lost your partner forever?  Yea.  What if?  If you can’t handle that reality in your mind right now, it’s probably showing as needy behavior on the surface.


That’s not sexy.


It’s like no wonder they are running away from that.


The moment they can see that you are capable of loving yourself adequately, they will always regret a decision of not working on your relationship.


That self-love will attract a better companionship to you with or without your spouse; it’s non-negotiable. 


And again, we are not talking to selfish people.  Self-love as a religious talking point and ideology can also destroy you and everything you care about.


We are speaking from experience.  


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Sep 16, 2022

CHAPTER 4 The Connection - So there are two types of connections I would like to share with you.  The first type of connection is how you digitally connect the value we identified in chapter 3 with the person(s) we identified in chapter 2.  And the second type of connection we will discuss is how to mentally connect your brand with the person(s).



Let’s take it backwards a little bit.  In the previous chapter, we talked about value.   You learned how 85-90% of actions and acquisitions are initiated and triggered as emotional reactions; some justify with logic later.  

We also reviewed a little about the motivation theories and how your competitors are probably selling products that have only 10% of the value you offer at 10 times of your prices.  And they are selling them almost effortlessly to people that may not be able to afford it ordinarily.

We reminded ourselves of the six basic human needs, certainty, variety, significance, contribution, growth, and connection.  And we discussed how you can use it to almost seem like you are creating value out of thin air.  

When your message or “the value” covers just three of these six needs, it will simply come off as stupid for your person(s) to pass on your offer.

Every website, webpage, video, image, blogpost on your hubs need to be exchanging value with the users.  A part of value is the user experience.  How they feel as they travel that journey from discovery to conversion is your responsibility precisely because it’s ultimately valuable to you and the business you are building.

What you are offering may be the best in the market but we may never find out if whatever that is doesn’t translate to what is valuable to your users.  It’s not just the product; it’s everything, even at the most micro-levels, that they will encounter in the process of interacting with your business; the experience.

So we now have to expand a little bit on value creation to create and establish strong connections digitally and mentally with your person(s).  How do you show up in their dreams at night and stress the sh*t out of their sleep if they don’t buy?

1995-1996…  Owo. Ondo State, Nigeria, West Africa.  I was a 15 or 16 years old teenager.  I would go visit my father in the office during the day where he was serving as a General Manager at his Uncle’s company.

I had been going to the office for a few years during holidays but I did it more after graduating high school.  I didn’t go to University right away because we had opted for me to come back to the United States after 12 of my developing years in Nigeria. 

I was at home for two years filling the gap of time; just waiting to secure accommodation in the States.  My father had wanted me to study Architecture; that was his dream.  

But one day during another visit to his office, I found out becoming an architect wasn’t my dream.  It was the first time a website was opened in front of me on a 3 piece-suite equipment; a personal computer.  The secretary at the office was testing it out and he would try numerous times to connect to the internet.  

Thinking about it now, it was a painful process.. But not really because the frame of reference did not involve a broadband connection as we know it today. 

It was exciting that he literally pulled up Toyota’s website that never could load a full Toyota logo; the connection was too slow.  There was a blue placeholder but it was fascinating enough at the time.  I’ve never left computing since then.

During that short break between high school and coming back to continue schooling and life in the States, I went over to the next biggest city, Akure, where I spent three months and became certified in Database Management.

I shared this story with you to establish a connection between you and the fact that the internet has grown from about 40 millions users in 1995 to more than 5 billion users at press time.  If there are internet users increasing at that pace, that means that there are producers consistently connecting them to value increasingly and making stupid amount of money doing it.

Most websites back in 1995 were designed to provide information and not initiate transactions.  But it's a different story today.  You can now buy a whole car on the internet and have it delivered to your home.

Therefore it’s no longer enough to show a logo, and the company’s mission statement.  Many businesses still have websites that can’t exchange money for product and services.  A lot of them felt the heat and disadvantage of that in 2020 when covid hit our world.  

My business doubled in that particular year because I was positioned to serve that market right from home.  Sadly, many established businesses went under for not paying attention in all these years.

You have created the right offer.  And you have done the market research, identified the right audience, the gurus and the brands they are presently following.

In fact, you are already paying time and money to attract them as visitors to your website.  But the traffic is not converting to sales quickly enough for you.  And you figured, it’s probably because you are just not getting enough traffic to the website.

So you have to come up with more funds to buy marketing and advertising in the hopes that enough prospects will convert to customers.  Soon enough, you discovered that you are just multiplying your problems with money you don’t have and garnering more debt.

It’s not working.  You quit and ran back to giving away free money to the agencies that still want to sell you newspaper and yellow book ads.  Do yellow books still exist?

It is important to pre-design and pre-determine how you want to connect your value (the offer) to the person(s) based on what type of pre-framing the person(s) (the prospect) had been exposed to.  

When your prospects know, like and trust you, they will buy without too much effort from you.  Forget about that; when they feel like they know, like and trust you, they will buy even more from you.  All of that is emotionally and mentally triggered if you know what you are doing.

I call it the KLT factor.  Does the prospect feel like he or she knows, likes and trusts you?  If you can’t answer that question, you are probably going to struggle with converting prospects to customers, clients and deals.

We use a formula called the “I.L.S.D.T.R.R” to build your KLT factor (a.k.a brand equity) in the digital space.  The acronym stands for invest, learn, share, do, teach, refine and repeat.  Let’s break it down.

The idea is to build digital agents and leave thousands of your footprints everywhere in the digital space without burning your resources up while doing it.  If you follow me on social media, you can see us practicing what we preach with literally thousands of videos and articles everywhere.

This is it.  I want you to INVEST time and possibly money in LEARNING, then SHARING what you are learning as often as possible via online videos, blogposts, infographic and more.  After that, you actually want to DO (execute on) what you are learning in order to create experience or tacit knowledge.

If your business module permits it, you can build your business even faster by taking the sharing to the next level which is actually TEACHING from your knowledge and experience for a fee or more KLT factor and brand equity.  

Then I want you to refine and repeat that process over and over again in order to create a massive web of nodes that link back to your hub.  When you do this, you will build a massive brand equity that makes it super simple to connect your value to your person(s).  

All these digital agents that you are creating will work for you forever.  You couldn’t erase them off the internet if you try to after a while.  And that is a good thing.

This is what I meant earlier when I mentioned pre-framing the prospects ahead of actually presenting them with an offer.  The connection doesn’t start at the sales presentation.  It starts before they even discover there is something to buy from you.

How cool would it be if your prospects are already asking you where to sign up before knowing if you have anything to sell or not.  That’s the outcome of orchestrating a strong connection of value with your audience upfront.

By positioning yourself and your brand to help your audience by actually helping them, their minds are pre-framed to recognize your brand and business as their problem solver.

Sure, a properly scripted sales presentation is still necessary because some of them may have skipped to that part in your customer journey.  But most of your time, energy and resource is best spent steering new prospects through a discovery point where you are actually helping them first before asking them to pay for something.

They usually start off with a question to answer or a problem to solve.  Most people appreciate some useful information first before attempting to sell them on buying stuff.

In fact, there is a sector of your market that price point is really not a determining factor in their decision making process to buy.  

It boils down to the KLT factor and brand equity.  They need to feel like they know, like and trust you.  And then they will pull out a credit card if anything remotely looks like their problem is solved.  

The return on investment in learning, sharing, doing, teaching, refining and repeating is literally infinite especially if you add consistency to it.

In the world of digital marketing, we call this content creation.  The idea is to come up with topic ideas that will appeal directly to your ideal customers’ needs.  So I want to share four idea sources that will help you generate more than enough ideas to invest time and possibly money in learning more about so you can share.

Idea Source Number 1 - Write down 10 commonly or frequently asked questions that your ideal customers tend to ask.  If this is a business that you are qualified to serve in, it should be pretty simple.

Let me give you a quick secret.  You could be learning the business at the same time, in real time and using these same content creation skills to attract a significant size of the market.  When you teach, you literally learn twice.

Most people in any business end up complacent and never learning anything new for years.  But when you use this method to create thousands of connections and digital agents for prospects before getting to see your offer, you will remain at the top of your game.

Idea Source Number 2 - For this one, come up with and write down 10 questions you would advise an ideal prospect to ask your competitors.  Of course, you want to make sure these are questions and problems that your content and products have answered and solved.

Idea Source Number 3 - Identify 10 common problems that your ideal prospect faces.  It doesn’t have to directly be linked to the problems that your product solves.

But I want you to do it because the information you will provide in the content will actually serve an audience.  But in addition to that, you may end up creating a tangible and usable solution if the piece of content is attracting a big enough audience.

Last but not least…

Idea Source Number 4 - Invest time to learn about 10 common mistakes that an ideal prospect would or could make and share each one as a piece of content.  In addition to that, share tips on how to avoid the mistakes.

I’ve used this same method of connection to build my business and the good thing about it; you can verify.  At press time, about 840 myEmpirePRO web pages are resulting and indexed on the Google Search Engine Results Page. (THE SERP).  

And on another web property that I am building with my wife,, about 1,370 web pages of content are resulting and indexed.   I am not even talking about other search engines such as Yahoo, Bing and many others that thrive off of picking up your content and connecting them with potential prospects all around the world for free.

65.78% of our audience at myEmpirePRO in the last 28 days from presstime are coming from the United States. 13.46% are coming from China.  3.77% are coming from Canada.  The audience or traffic were connected from 48 different countries. 

The beauty about digital marketing is the fact that you are also collecting tons of data with the various default activities of setting up and running these campaigns.  That’s why I am able to share these results with you.  In fact, you can check it yourself.

All you have to do is place this string ‘site:’ before any site with no spaces between them and search.  For example, a simple search of ‘’ will show the top of the SERP (search engine results page) and it will show you how many pages have been indexed from the site.

What about YouTube?  We’ve published 1,304 videos and they are all working in our favor to connect more prospects to our hub.  All these digital agents are not built overnight and they don’t need to be built overnight.  

In fact, all it takes is one good piece of content to create a $10,000 day.  But that also depends on what you are selling and your business model.  You just never know what answered-question would resonate with someone’s deep pain.  The more you put out there, the better.

In order to execute a massive connection, KLT and brand equity campaign, you have to create a main online hub where everyone comes to from all these different sources you will be putting out there.  The main hub is a content management system and I recommend good ol’ Wordpress.

On the internet today, we have websites designed to simply display information like the Toyota website from 1995 in that story I shared with you earlier.  But we also have websites designed to manage databases of content, users, and users’ information.  We call them a content management system (CMS).  

You have two options.  You can build and code your CMS with all the bells and whistles that makes it a robust system to create millions of dollars in online transactions from scratch.  The second option is what I recommend which involves leveraging existing tools and systems that allow you to customize with add-ons to perform even better than systems that are built from scratch.

Which option do you think you should go with?  Okay.  That wasn’t a trick question.  It’s a simple question and it has a simple answer which is to leverage tools and systems so that you can get to making money as soon as possible.

At press time, Wordpress powers a little more than 40% of the websites online and their content management system.  I recommend it because it works just like the iPhone and the Android phones.  It’s an open source that allows vendors to continue to code additional features many of which you can leverage for free.

That’s why I recommend Wordpress in addition to the fact that I personally use it to manage my content marketing campaign.  But there are also two different kinds of Wordpress websites.

  1. Fully-hosted Wordpress website which is host at and 
  2. Self-hosted Wordpress website which means you are in full control of the features you attach to it.

You will understand fully later many reasons why it is better to go with option number 2 in addition to the fact that you are able to control how you are branded online.  

Brand control is non-negotiable as we move into the future because competition is increasing.  With a brand you create, you will eliminate a significant number of your competition because of brand loyalty; the same effect that Apple has on its customers. I recommend that you set up your self-hosted Wordpress hub with the company at this link for less than $10 per month. - 

All of these you’ve learned thus far without setting them up as a system is just another job that will occupy your life with redundant activities and minimum wages.  So in the next chapter, we will talk about changing these new insights into an automated system that takes your prospects on a journey from discovery to conversion and a happy customer.

By now, you are understanding slowly that setting up a website is just the bare minimum of digital marketing.  Most websites on the internet are a ghost land. No one is visiting them much less initiating a transaction.

So there is a distinct difference between a digital marketer and a website designer or developer.  The former is a minimum of a 6 figure career as a job and a 7-9 figure income when you use this skill as an entrepreneur. The latter is darn near a minimum wage job.    

With systems, you can scale a campaign beyond  what’s possible when all you’ve got are linear operations involving humans at every segment.  You will learn about  different segments in a customer’s life cycle and how systems can scale from 10 customers to 100 and to 1,000 customers being served simultaneously.

The last thing I want you to do is know all this cool stuff only to get stuck behind a laptop for 16 hours a day.  While I definitely want you to understand the concepts that make this work, I will be sharing with you how to set, forget and collect on a regular basis leveraging the concept of systems..

Sep 10, 2022

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In this video, we are responding to 2 comments with the 5 signs that a marriage is over based on how a man responds to a crisis.


Here is the first comment.


“My wife has been gone for a few months. 10 years together and she’s just pulled the plug on all emotions she had for me. She talks and looks at me differently now. She never sees our one year old son. Wtf has happened. God I miss her 😢” ~ by Slaven Yatic


And here is the 2nd comment.


"Truth is she doesn’t. Folks, separation is not a good thing period. 5% of separation works and they end up back together but 80% of separation ends up in a divorce. If your partner wants a separation it means they have someone else in mind." ~ Comment by Triple A Triple a


So here we go.

Sign Number 5

OLA - You Feel Damages Happen Overnight


Believe it or not; most men that go through this type of trauma always feel that the woman just changed overnight.  Nothing could be further from the truth.


Some call it “the walk away wife syndrome.”  It’s basically unhappy wives who leave their husbands… emphasis on “UNHAPPY”.  


There is not one single event that can destroy your marriage.  And if you can’t comprehend that, comprehend this.  


Not realizing that damages never happen overnight is a sign that your marriage is over and potentially forever.  In fact, your marriage ended a long time ago.  


So clearly, it’s even worse that you haven’t been able to pay enough attention to detect this for potentially so long.


She didn’t just pull the plug on emotions she had for you.  Rather, she had been disconnected from you emotionally long before you realized.


Maybe she was trying to protect your feelings and then finally realized that it is a non-sustainable effort.  Many women try this and it always fails eventually.


Sign Number 4

LOLA - You Use Children to Manipulate


Naturally, a separation from family, wife or husband will create trauma for your children and that’s simply part of life.


But let’s be honest, overreacting to this is obviously an indication that… you have probably overreacted to many other events in the past.


The default is that your children will get dragged through the mud that you and your ex-partner-to-be have created.  It’s just the reality.


And if you have a hard time facing reality, it is little-to-no-wonder that you will attempt to use your children’s trauma to manipulate the direction of things.  Is that what you mean by “She never sees our one year old son?”


That, precisely, is a sign that your marriage is over.  It doesn’t have to be over, if you are willing to indulge in the possibility of a new understanding.


Your focus needs to go into working on the evaporated attraction in your romantic relationship because it is the root cause.  It is your only point of leverage and there are any further chances.

Sign Number 3

OLA - You Think Separation is Bad


If you think separation is bad, your marriage is probably over.  Saying that is just another manipulative measure to get a person who doesn’t want you to stay with you.


There is no better way to tell me that you are negotiating “desire”.  It doesn't work.  In fact, it will work against your marriage.


In addition, pushing against separation is not a way to save your marriage.  If at least one of the parties is asking for separation, that marriage is over anyway.


But that doesn’t mean you can’t build a new foundation from scratch with or without the same person.


As long as you are obsessed with the idea of sustaining the present terrible state of your marriage, how can you build another foundation?


Remember the emphasis on “happy”?  How can you create happiness in a marriage where one person is not happy?


I know what you are thinking.  Everyone is responsible for their own happiness?  You are half-wrong because how we feel is a function of our environment. 


So as long as you are a part of your spouses’ environment, you are a factor.  You are part of the variables that determine her emotional state.


But also vice versa.


Do wives ever come back after separation?  The answer is “YES”.  But how likely is that to happen to you?

Sign Number 2

LOLA - You Project Stats & Data on Relationships


Your marriage is over if you project improperly interpreted stats and data on your relationship as facts.  Your wife will not come back after separation.


So even if we have to take “Triple A Triple a”’s comment, which is the fact that only 5% of separation works, I guarantee that your personal case will be in the 80% that end up in divorce if you project the “stat” on your relationship.


It’s simple.  In the human experience, what you focus on expands.  That principle is undefeated just like the fact that she wants separation.


Data and stat are mostly useful in a class and scholar activities.  


If you are personally going through a crisis in your relationship, focus on learning what it takes to create attraction in your particular situation.  


You can’t do that trying to smother a person who wants to leave with numbers and stats.


Tip Number 1

OLA - You Believe She Has Someone Else in Mind


In fact, it’s true that many women are right now trying to figure out how to leave their husbands for a different life all together; not just someone else.


She wants to leave.  The attempt to make yourself feel better by accusing her of having someone else in mind is just another useless effort to save the marriage.


Let’s be honest.  You will only feel worse even if it isn’t true.  Also, you are spreading unnecessary toxic energy.


But again, I know what you are thinking.


What if it’s true that she has someone else?


Let me ask you the same question.  What if?


Is that a good excuse to drag yourself further through the mud?  Is that a reality you can’t deal with without throwing your whole life away?


If the answer is yes, have you considered it… as a good reason to obsessively smother the relationship to death? 


We are speaking from experience.  


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Sep 4, 2022

Quick story.  So my husband was on Aunty B’s platform, Obodo Oyinbo TV, in the past few days oh my God… he ended up becoming an overnight detective.





A man had called him before he called into a show making wild claims about women in Nigeria and as usual, it was obvious to him that this man was speaking from personal experience.


The truth is that we have both men and women who perpetuate this terrible behavior once they have had  traumatic experiences in marriage or relationships.


And nothing good comes out of it.


So we want to share 5 "do's & don'ts" if you happen to be in a separation from your marriage at this moment.  


We  know you will be tempted to destroy your future relationship if you don’t know these things so please, pay attention.

Thing Number 5

OLA: Don’t Focus on Whose Fault; It’s Irrelevant


After about 30,000 views, what I always knew was confirmed.  He was projecting from his personal experiences.


He is presently separated from his wife who he had met in Nigeria while visiting.  So the wife had recently asked for divorce.


So he decided he wanted to help others who may be captured by the evil women who are poor and live in Nigeria; according to him.


After getting dragged on that platform so many times, there was one thing that really stood out to me and this is it.


He was obsessed with who was at fault for the demise of the marriage.  Not just that, we are talking about a need to spell out every fault at every stop since he met the lady.


If you are in separation and you want the outcome of the process to be positive, you have two choices.


Decide that no one is at fault or… 


The 2nd choice, which is “both of you are at fault”; unless of course, someone had a gun to their head during the decision to engage in a romantic way.

Thing Number 4

LOLA: Don’t Attempt Saving Others Before Healing


So we get it.  You’ve just gone through a very traumatic situation and experience.  Your experience is valid but you need to believe that.


Naturally, if you consider yourself “nice” or “good”, you might want to jump out there and save everyone else from people like your ex-partner who is now a bad person I guess…


Don’t do it.  You will end up re-creating your own version of your experience in others and they will effectively project it further into our society… 


…when it is in-fact, not necessarily their experience.


It’s a fact that your ex-partner had their own experience. This is why those who don’t know any better end up calling each other liars; making things worse.


Stay away from trying to help others until you make sure you’ve gone through healing.


And have peace with the idea that it’s not necessarily anyone’s fault.


Thing Number 3

OLA: Let Go In Every Sense


Generally speaking, letting go is one of the hardest things for humans to do.  People would yell out things like “I don’t care” with such anger.


You would be left to wonder…”Do you believe that you don’t care or you need to convince yourself even more?”


It’s confusing at best.  Sure you should be able to tell your story.  But you should only do it within a controlled context and environment.


Letting go, self control and awareness is key but hard.  Have you noticed that you enjoy talking so much about your ex-partner particularly in a bad light?


Thing Number 2

LOLA: Engage a Wise Counsel


There is a good chance you are not able to smell your own breath.  You can barely see your own nose.  Maybe if you calm down, you can at least see a blurry version of it.


The point I am making is this.  Separation from a marriage is tough on a human heart.  Take some time off and engage wise counsel.


We all have a blind spot by default.  So how much more when everything you believed when it comes to romance is being questioned.


Thing Number 1

OLA: Don’t Generalize! It’s a sign of a weak person…


Let me ask that question I asked previously again.  Have you noticed that you enjoy talking so much about your ex-partner particularly in a bad light?


Or maybe this time, you’ve managed to camouflage it as a generalized story that you have become an evangelist for.


You find yourself saying things like “American women are not good wives.”  You’ve perfected the art of saying “All Nigerian men are cheaters.”


I’m just gonna be straight up with you.  There is no better way to tell us that you need counseling and possibly therapy than showcasing a habit of generalizing.


It’s a red flag.  You shouldn’t be advising or trying to save anyone.


It’s projection at best.  There is no way that you know enough people to be capable of generalizing in the name of helping someone.


You will end up making more people toxic than you help if at all..


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Sep 1, 2022

It means a lot of different things to people depending on where they are standing.  But in this chapter, my goal is to first make sure we are standing in the same position before extracting the actual value I want to share with you.




You are reading this book because you are trying to build a business or organization of some sort right? If that’s the case, keep reading.

In the last chapter, we talked about “the person(s)” as one of the pillars we must clearly identify before trying to set up marketing campaigns in the digital era.  A failure to do this will simply defeat the purpose; which I am hoping is partly the benefits of tracking down every penny and making sure it doubles itself.

You also learned how my 500 and change in credit score saved me from early life bankruptcy.  Personally, I’ve had some ups and downs naturally in the type of risky and non-conventional journey I chose to embark on; becoming an entrepreneur.  But it’s never gotten so bad that I had to file for bankruptcy.  Thank goodness.

More importantly, you also learned how lack of proper market research and competition analysis can result in losing your life savings and/or capital; $10 at a time.  We reviewed the dangers of passion-driven biases, the greatest market research tool which is free, seed keyword and keyword phrases, the role of Artificial Intelligence and Machine Learning in market research and more.

Last and definitely not all and for sure, not the least, we talked about the two different categories of your ideal customer and client and the four stages they have to travel in order to not just maximize profits for your business but to deliver value.

And speaking of value, I became dangerous and over-valued for the 9-5 world since I learned what you are about to discover in this chapter.

It was 2014 and I had been helping quite a few people I met in the internet and network marketing world make their first $100, $1,000, $200,000 and even $4 million completely online.  Not just that, I did very well with my business too.

But the honest truth is that I had not fully grasped the magnitude of the value in what I had learned.  On my best day ever, I was able to use written text and words to convert complete strangers into a $15,000 sales.  And I did it multiple times over.  Somehow, I had acquired a skill set that could collect such an amount of money in exchange for a digital product without being physically present to sell.

Before that, my best day ever was back in real estate when I closed a deal that created a net profit of $82,000. 

But let’s put things into perspective right?  There are a lot of things that go into the process of closing real estate deals and it wasn’t easy to say the least.  I could potentially sit around for months and not close another deal.

In addition to that, a whole real estate property belonging to a person or a family is involved.  It’s a big deal in terms of vested interest involved when a decision is made to buy or sell real estate in comparison to an online transaction; especially back then.  

But these days, people are more comfortable with purchasing a whole car online.  So it’s actually gotten a whole lot easier provided you are able to communicate the value proposition effectively.

I will forever be grateful to gentlemen; Mike Dillard and Ben Settle, for learning these skill sets from them as far back 2009/2010.  I do not think they know who I am at all.  But it doesn’t matter because you are about to learn the skills more than 10 years later.

Sales is hard for an average human being.  Most people are only comfortable selling a resume.  And to be honest, it’s because of the dependency on the credentials and the experience to do the selling for them in a non-confrontational way.

It’s actually similar to why an estimated 77% of people hate public speaking.  According to many studies, people actually fear public speaking more than death.  They get bombarded by panic and a paralyzing fear of guess what; rejection.  I personally still hate the feelings of being rejected.

When you pay close attention to what I just said, it’s not the actual rejection.  It’s the “feeling” of being rejected that paralyzes people to avoid sales, public speaking or being in any position where the ultimate desire is to be accepted.  It’s fascinating to know.

So many people fantasize about the idea of a big business.  But then the fear of being rejected becomes a huge huddle in their way directly or indirectly.  

Even if you are a person who is naturally okay with sales, it's a challenge to build a sales team with a decent attrition rate which is the rate at which people leave your organization or team.  People find it a lot easier to use a resume or CV to sell their time in exchange for less than $50 per hour than to sell even air to breathe.

You can invent the best product in the world.  If you are terrible at communicating the value in it to a prospect, you won’t be able to afford its production sooner or later.

Another struggle is the inability for a lot of people to know the difference in personal values and the value in a product for prospects.  

Why do people window-shop?  I’ll tell you why.  A prospect can want a product and not be able to afford it.  Sometimes, it’s just the wrong timing.  But that’s not the reason why people are not buying your product or services.  

The reason why people chose not to purchase from you is because you failed to transfer enough value in a way that it’s valuable to them.  It was a negative choice against added value for your business.

Value in this context is in the eyes of the user or consumer and not in the eyes of the producer.  Value is absolutely not an objective truth; it’s subjective but only until you learn what I want to share with you right now.

So it’s one thing to know the benefit of your product or service, it’s completely another thing to know how to transfer the value of those benefits to the prospects in order to buy now.

I am sure you have probably learned about the differences between features and benefits before.  Well, this is an additional layer to the madness.  But when you master this skill set, you will become dangerously profitable as your competitors drown in debt.

Oxford dictionary calls sales the exchange of a commodity for money but it also calls it the action of selling something.  But then what is selling?  If you are able to transfer value to your potential customers and clients at scale using written words, what would that mean for your business?

According to INC magazine, a Harvard professor says 95% of purchasing decisions are subconscious.  I personally learned a long time ago that 85% of sales are initiated emotionally and they justify with logic later.  

So while you may present with all the facts and figures to back up your own version of the value that the product and services offer, you will fail 85%-95% of the time because you are selling the wrong value to the wrong side of the human mind. It’s a hard pill to swallow.

Have you ever heard the saying “Facts tell but story sells?”  Storytelling is a highly profitable skill to learn and no amount of facts, data and statistics can engage the human mind like a good story.  It’s not necessarily the easiest thing to do but it’s non-negotiable when we create an offer.    

The key in successfully transferring the value to your prospect or dare I say, sometimes manufacturing value out of thin air in a way that is perceived by your prospect, is to tap into their real motivation to buy.  I promise you.  It has nothing to do with doing the “right” thing.

Why do people buy?  Seriously, why do people buy into anything, ideas, ideologies, belief system, a product, a service or anything?  What motivates them to buy?  By now, you should get the gist.  It’s not logical.

Is it because they need it, they want it, can afford it?  Let’s be honest.  People buy things they can’t afford all the time, right?  

In fact, for every time you engage unnecessary empathy around the decision of a person not buying from you for affordability reasons, they probably just spent ten times your price on a ten times worse competitor’s product or service.  So affordability is rarely even a motivator to buy a product or not.

There are many motivation theories from numerous studies and I love them all.  But allow me to share a few with you and then I will share my favorite.  

Maslow’s need hierarchy theory is based on people's basic five need-levels namely; survival, safety, love or belonging, self-esteem and self-actualization.  I personally would add “a sense of” to each one of those because people don’t even assess those things logically.  They are mostly based on feelings at an emotional level.

Also, there is Herzberg’s motivational and hygiene factors.  Have you heard of McClelland's human motivation theory which states that every person has one of three main driving motivators: the needs for achievement, affiliation (sounds like belonging again), or power.  These are all mindsets.

People would buy things just because of a sense of belonging even when it directly offers no tangible value to them.  So when designing a marketing and sales message around your product and service, you have to be careful with your definition of value.  

The key thing to always remember is that it’s in the eyes of your prospect and rarely ever about your personal belief system.   While you should be absolutely confident about the value you feel your product and service offers, you need to remain aware that it’s about making that confidence contagious enough for the prospect to feel that level of confidence, pull the credit card out and buy now.

So you have managed to come up with a good product in your opinion.  People are checking it out but they are not buying.  In fact, you know a few of these prospects personally and you’ve deemed their excuses legitimate enough to keep looking for the right customer.

NEWSFLASH:  It’s either you haven’t made an offer or you’ve got a bad offer.  What is an offer and how is that different from a product?  

An offer is a presentation of a product beyond just the product. Some kind of tangible or intangible element has been added to make the product compelling enough to make them buy now.  In essence, a product is just a product but “buy and get one free” is an offer.

The product will always be available but there is no guarantee that the offer will be available if you do not buy right now.  As for intangibles, the same can be said about “a limited time” discounted price.  Again, the product or at least an indirect competition to the product will always be available but there is no guarantee there will be a discount at a later time.

But these are the obvious ones you’ve encountered at a mall before.  Let’s get back to using text and words to make a prospect buy from you now and not later.  It’s nothing other than your ability to communicate the value proposition with the subconscious mind.  

My favorite of the motivation theories is said to have been birthed by Sigmun Freud but it was made famous by Abraham Maslow.  I discovered it through Tony Robbins.

The six basic human needs are love or connection, variety, significance, certainty, growth, and contribution.  If you are able to stimulate a sense of these needs at a subconscious and emotional level inside of your prospects mind, you will damn near print money on-demand.

What it looks like is to spell and trace out an emotional journey from discovery to feeling absolutely stupid for not figuring out a way to buy now.  Sure there will be situations where a buyer is unable to buy.  But what you want is your prospects sending messages expressing their fear of missing out on an offer.

If you can craft a message in a way that they feel left out if they don’t buy, the idea of buying is exciting, they can feel a sense of a certainty in the promised transformation into a desired state of some kind of advancement, they feel even more important, and feel like your offer will make them create a desired impact on society, then your product will have a chance of delivering the value it was intended for. 

A good product or service solves a problem, answers a question or replaces pain with pleasure or relief.  Stating out the features, benefits, problem, solution, question and answer is not enough.  

You will create more customers and clients in your business when you spell out the pain, the desired pleasure or relief especially when you are able to qualify them from a place of feelings or emotions.

Can you use words to communicate the expected transformation?  Can you imagine what the pain of the present state of your customer feels like?  When you can communicate the emotional state after the transformation that your product and service has delivered, you will dominate your market. 

As I told you towards the end  of last chapter, your customer will travel through four main stages namely:

  1. Discovery
  2. Awareness
  3. Consideration and…
  4. Conversion

The transition between each one of these stages is a conversion and you are responsible to persuade your prospect through each one of these transitions and segments.  In digital marketing, we use a mix of words, images, videos and creatives to compel them to advance to the next level or segment.

This is what I want you to do in order to put a seal on the secret you just discovered in this chapter. There are some copy elements I want you to start paying attention to in the various marketing messages that you encounter henceforth.  I promise.  You will start noticing them on all your favorite social media platforms now.  You probably found this book through one of my ad creatives and copy.

For the rest of this book, we may refer to the front end discovery level marketing message as creatives.  It simply means the actual visuals that you see first, be it words, images, videos, slides, etc. The idea is to get you to a space where you are absolutely intentional on how you craft the message.

Most of the social media platforms land you on a news feed as soon as you login.  That space is one of the most valuable spaces on the whole internet and the platforms are very aware of that.  That’s why they sell opportunities to post your messages on the news feed for a fee.

It’s the same concept of the newspaper selling ad spaces inside a newspaper and other news channels since the ancient Roman times.  When you manage to get your message on these pages, you have three seconds or less to capture the attention of your ideal audience and sell them on advancing from discovery to awareness. 

It’s in your best interest to learn the art and sciences of using words and text to persuade your audience to take the actions you desire on your creatives.  It’s called copywriting and the elements in it are called ‘copy”.  

You can also use the same skill set in presentation to capture the heart of a c-suite panelist and get them to buy your offers.  In fact, this understanding will be responsible for your ability to create irresistible offers.

When your prospect resists your offers, they will lose sleep over it and will not have peace until they come back and buy your product and services.  It has nothing to do with the actual product.  But it has everything to do with how owning your product or using your service makes them feel.

When you see a post with a label “Sponsored” next to it, become obsessed with the “copy”.  Can you see how the copywriter was able to capture your attention?  What color combinations are used? What solution is being offered to solve what problem and how are they promising some kind of relief to what pain?

Go ahead and save as many sponsored feed posts as possible, review and study them like your life depends on it.  They will become a swipe file of creatives to model your execution after when we get to that stage.

In the next section, we will start talking about the  processes and how you can automate more than 90% of it to get more leads, customers, clients and more deals.  We are going to start with the process that connects the persons as discussed in chapter 2 with the value as we have just discussed in this chapter.0